Introduction
I regularly come across people on this forum still talking about "true friend" or "unconditional love". Even if I consider this common sense, it is clear that many people are not aware of what is really going on.
As animals, everything we do carries an incentive to profit. Be it energy, money or satisfaction, we always subconsciously have a profit motive, because survival demands it. If the reward energy of a hunted animal, is bigger than the investment energy of the hunt, that hunt isnt worth it. This investment/reward analysis is something even single cell organisms can do.
Closing statements
There is no such thing as true friend. People stay together as long as their paths align, and they have a mutual relationship. If one of two loser friends, manage to ascend, he might start to see his old friend as an obstacle for his new life. Which will turn the relationship into a parasitic one in his eyes. Even though nothing has changed on the opposite side, emotional connection in the ascended person's view will diminish with time. And a break will happen.
Because of our profit incentive for survival, there is no such thing as "unconditional love". What we call love, is an emotional connection formed after a mutual relationship is established. Love at first sight, is a mutual relationship of wanting to fuck as a result of visual pleasure.
If we are speaking of parental love, even though you get bonuses like genetic ties, they still expect things from you, and those are the things they expect to get from the relationship. If the relationship goes into negatives, they will try to jettison the relationship.
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Footnote
I have tried to keep it simple in my examples. Of course analysis can go much deeper, but I would like to think that this illustrates my point well enough, and no more is necessary.
I regularly come across people on this forum still talking about "true friend" or "unconditional love". Even if I consider this common sense, it is clear that many people are not aware of what is really going on.
As animals, everything we do carries an incentive to profit. Be it energy, money or satisfaction, we always subconsciously have a profit motive, because survival demands it. If the reward energy of a hunted animal, is bigger than the investment energy of the hunt, that hunt isnt worth it. This investment/reward analysis is something even single cell organisms can do.
- Even though we dont do it consciously, we apply this style of thinking to everything we do. It gets quite complicated when there are two sides to a story, but here, I will try to explain how this works with examples.
- Value of what is exchanged differs from person to person. A bottle of water will have different value for a person who lives in a city vs a person who lives in a desert. It is exactly the same for abstracts. A hug carries much higher value for an incel than to a chad.
- I have added numbers in parenthesis to demostrate how much something is worth to the person.
- People always try to maximize their positives and minimize negatives in their life. (Incentive to profit)
- Think of emotional connections as a piggybank. Mutual relationships fill it up, parasitic relationships drain it. But in the end, how much this emotional connection is worth, is up to the individual.
Closing statements
There is no such thing as true friend. People stay together as long as their paths align, and they have a mutual relationship. If one of two loser friends, manage to ascend, he might start to see his old friend as an obstacle for his new life. Which will turn the relationship into a parasitic one in his eyes. Even though nothing has changed on the opposite side, emotional connection in the ascended person's view will diminish with time. And a break will happen.
Because of our profit incentive for survival, there is no such thing as "unconditional love". What we call love, is an emotional connection formed after a mutual relationship is established. Love at first sight, is a mutual relationship of wanting to fuck as a result of visual pleasure.
If we are speaking of parental love, even though you get bonuses like genetic ties, they still expect things from you, and those are the things they expect to get from the relationship. If the relationship goes into negatives, they will try to jettison the relationship.
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Footnote
I have tried to keep it simple in my examples. Of course analysis can go much deeper, but I would like to think that this illustrates my point well enough, and no more is necessary.
