Validation/egotism/narcissism is really at the core of alot of inceldom.
You're basically depending on another human being to tell you your worth.
Even if you were chad and could get that validation, it's still a weak basis for self-worth.
Next week if some foid tells you your dick is too small at 7 inches, suddenly all your chad value goes down the tubes?
That's such a fragile ego, unstable sense of self-worth, you're a wishy-washy person, "I'm cool right? Tell me I'm cool. Please tell me I'm cool, I need to hear that you think I'm cool so I can feel ok and function."
That's basically what inceldom is.
Caring what any woman thinks of you is a waste of time, your job isn't to make her like you, your job is to effect your own sexual agenda which is to bend her over and fuck a baby into her.
Globally and historically %99.99 of the planet are betabucks.
Look at India, look at the middle east, look at china, look at most of europe and africa, it's all beta bux.
That's the traditional gender roles, the man works and the wife stays home and take care of the kids.
Now you convince youself that you need to be "alpha" and get laid based on model-tier good looks or some kind of monster dick size.
Again that's such a weak position, and so easily assailable, and fragile.