[Discussion] Can your friends or family tell you're an incel?

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I just got back from a week-long vacation with three of my old high school friends. One of them is this super handsome guy I've been friends with since 10th grade. He's always been able to get a girlfriend and has had many casual sex encounters with various girls he's met online or through school, camp, etc. He has a girlfriend of about a year & a half now (she's really cool and they both get along really well) that he's planning to move in with next fall and eventually marring. This guy is as far removed from incel stuff as just about anyone I know, I doubt he's even heard of the term. Anyways, the weird thing is after we were talking about what his relationship was like now that they've gotten so close, he asked me if I was seeing anyone or had just been dating around in general. Nothing about the way he asked it seemed like he was just trying to be nice either although that is possible. I think he genuinely believed, even after knowing me (someone who's never been able to get even one date with a girl) for more than half a decade, that it was a totally real possibility that I could be having any kind of love/sex life.

I have friends online who know that I've been on incel discord servers and have even had group chats with them with my incel friends present and they don't seem to make the connection unless I outright say it.

My parents seem to be in denial (I think the idea just makes them too sad for them to accept it) and none of my family beyond that cares.
My question is how aware do you think people around you are of your situation? Granted some of it must come from the fact that everyone's life is busy and filled with other people so it's difficult to know or mull over the ongoings of you or other people, but that can only explain so much ignorance on the part of peoples lives you're close to. I think the blue-pilled mindset (for lack of a better word) makes some people gloss over mentally the reality of people in their life who can't get into relationships / have sex. It doesn't matter if they know you've been trying to get into a relationship for decades with nothing to show for it or that none of them would want to date you or that you're still a virgin at an old age despite being very open about your interest in sex. Their world view doesn't accept people who want but are unable to lose their virginities or find romantic partners, so they just assume despite everything in front of them that you aren't that case. IDK, it's a very broad topic and I've tried to generalize the mindset of a large group of people. I just don't understand why it's so difficult for some people to see me and what I'm dealing with when I make no attempts to hide it. It feels kind of alienating and I wish the world wasn't like this. I'm sure some of you have insight or had very different experiences I'd like to hear about.
 
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People can tell if you’re an incel just by looking at you, dumb title tbh
 
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maybe they can tell but I never told them tbh
 
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That's fair, have you ever thought about talking to them about it?
I tried dropping black pills on family and they always either got mad and said I was wrong or explicitly said I was insane :feelshaha:
 
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I tried dropping black pills on family and they always either got mad and said I was wrong or explicitly said I was insane :feelshaha:
Yeah that's the reaction I get most of the time too. It's understandable that people will disagree on things and obviously black-pill ideas go against a lot of people's views of the world but you'd still wish they wouldn't just try shut you down immediately anytime you try to bring things up. It's not even that people don't want to talk about it (that's would be completely fair and respectable), it's that they want to talk about it but only have their view spoken and you as a passive listener. Things could be so much easier if people were more willing to hear each other out even if they don't end up changing their minds on anything. It sucks the most when it's to people like close family or friends that you want to turn to for support on things and you can't talk about some of the stuff that upsets you the most because you know how they'll react.
 
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My family sure, i don't even go outside of my house, my friends? i don't have any tbh
 
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Yeah people irl seem to be bluepilled as fuck and assume a complete subhuman still has sexual history.
I remember I was talking with some Tyrone and when I told him I was a virgin he was surprised as fuck and said "wait your a virgin :giga:?"
 
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They know I have used tinder and suspect that when I've left the house I went to some girl. So I guess they think I'm not a virgin.
 
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My family sure, i don't even go outside of my house, my friends? i don't have any tbh
How does your family feel about it? Would you like to have more friends?
 
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How does your family feel about it? Would you like to have more friends?
They feel sad but they think i'm going to improve my life in the future lmao . Not really tbh i don't care about friends
 
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It's hard not to tell if you never bought a GF to your house to meet your family or introduce to your friends.
 
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It's hard not to tell if you never bought a GF to your house to meet your family or introduce to your friends.
Yeah that's whats weird. I've never been in any kind of relationship and have always been open about wanting to be in one. It wouldn't take a genius to put two and two together after knowing me for a while to see I'm not successful in that area but almost everyone irl treats me like nothing is different in that area. I guess it's fortunate in some ways. I'd rather be treated just like everyone else then put down for it but it can still feel kind of isolating sometimes never feel seen or have anyone one recognize what's up with your life.
 
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I just got back from a week-long vacation with three of my old high school friends. One of them is this super handsome guy I've been friends with since 10th grade. He's always been able to get a girlfriend and has had many casual sex encounters with various girls he's met online or through school, camp, etc. He has a girlfriend of about a year & a half now (she's really cool and they both get along really well) that he's planning to move in with next fall and eventually marring. This guy is as far removed from incel stuff as just about anyone I know, I doubt he's even heard of the term. Anyways, the weird thing is after we were talking about what his relationship was like now that they've gotten so close, he asked me if I was seeing anyone or had just been dating around in general. Nothing about the way he asked it seemed like he was just trying to be nice either although that is possible. I think he genuinely believed, even after knowing me (someone who's never been able to get even one date with a girl) for more than half a decade, that it was a totally real possibility that I could be having any kind of love/sex life.

I have friends online who know that I've been on incel discord servers and have even had group chats with them with my incel friends present and they don't seem to make the connection unless I outright say it.

My parents seem to be in denial (I think the idea just makes them too sad for them to accept it) and none of my family beyond that cares.
My question is how aware do you think people around you are of your situation? Granted some of it must come from the fact that everyone's life is busy and filled with other people so it's difficult to know or mull over the ongoings of you or other people, but that can only explain so much ignorance on the part of peoples lives you're close to. I think the blue-pilled mindset (for lack of a better word) makes some people gloss over mentally the reality of people in their life who can't get into relationships / have sex. It doesn't matter if they know you've been trying to get into a relationship for decades with nothing to show for it or that none of them would want to date you or that you're still a virgin at an old age despite being very open about your interest in sex. Their world view doesn't accept people who want but are unable to lose their virginities or find romantic partners, so they just assume despite everything in front of them that you aren't that case. IDK, it's a very broad topic and I've tried to generalize the mindset of a large group of people. I just don't understand why it's so difficult for some people to see me and what I'm dealing with when I make no attempts to hide it. It feels kind of alienating and I wish the world wasn't like this. I'm sure some of you have insight or had very different experiences I'd like to hear about.
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na they are the religious conservative type that believes if I moneymax I’ll be able to get a wife somehow because it was that easy back 30-40 years ago. They aren’t up to date with social media / hypergamy nowadays. Oh well better for me to save wasting my breath blackpilling them
And I have no friends
 
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My question is how aware do you think people around you are of your situation?
My immediate family is fully aware of my inceldom even though they've never heard of the word incel. They barely speak English. Maybe only my sister knows what incel means, but she's never brought it up.
They all know I'm a virgin aspie creep and my extended family probably knows I'm a virgin.

I don't have any friends and no one really knows who I am. Even people at my college don't know my name.
Yeah that's whats weird. I've never been in any kind of relationship and have always been open about wanting to be in one. It wouldn't take a genius to put two and two together after knowing me for a while to see I'm not successful in that area but almost everyone irl treats me like nothing is different in that area. I guess it's fortunate in some ways. I'd rather be treated just like everyone else then put down for it but it can still feel kind of isolating sometimes never feel seen or have anyone one recognize what's up with your life.
You're probably just an average looking guy, slightly below average at worst.
Not that it means much since average guys struggle nowadays.
Being NT, outgoing, effeminate/beta and leftist are minimum requirements if you're average looking and below 6'0" and even then your best hopes are a cucked "relationship" with a post wall used up slut.
 
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fakecel if people cant tell you are incel tbh
 
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My family knows because I couldn't hide it from them. Everyone else knows for similar reasons.
 
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If you look like ugly, genetic trash that would be better off committing suicide... people can tell that you are incel.
 
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They used to ask questions but that stopped a long time ago.
 
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I don't have any real friend, back when i was in HS people in my class knew i was an incel in the sense that i couldn't get a gf even though i tried.Most people know it's over for you but they won't tell you straight to your face because they want to appear politically correct.The only person i befriended a little in HS was this rich truecel and they said multiple times he would never be able to get a gf behind his back but still lied to him when he asked for advice
 
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ItT couldnt be more blatant :cryfeels:
 
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fakecel if people still ask if whether you're a virgin or not, my family makes fun of my virginity and my face, aswell as everyone else
 
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na they are the religious conservative type that believes if I moneymax I’ll be able to get a wife somehow because it was that easy back 30-40 years ago. They aren’t up to date with social media / hypergamy nowadays. Oh well better for me to save wasting my breath blackpilling them
And I have no friends
I guess it can be nice to have people who know absolutely nothing about it maybe? Older people not being able to understand the difference in landscape is a reoccurring thing I see with a lot of people.
They used to ask questions but that stopped a long time ago.
Brutal :cryfeels:
 
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I just got back from a week-long vacation with three of my old high school friends. One of them is this super handsome guy I've been friends with since 10th grade. He's always been able to get a girlfriend and has had many casual sex encounters with various girls he's met online or through school, camp, etc. He has a girlfriend of about a year & a half now (she's really cool and they both get along really well) that he's planning to move in with next fall and eventually marring. This guy is as far removed from incel stuff as just about anyone I know, I doubt he's even heard of the term. Anyways, the weird thing is after we were talking about what his relationship was like now that they've gotten so close, he asked me if I was seeing anyone or had just been dating around in general. Nothing about the way he asked it seemed like he was just trying to be nice either although that is possible. I think he genuinely believed, even after knowing me (someone who's never been able to get even one date with a girl) for more than half a decade, that it was a totally real possibility that I could be having any kind of love/sex life.

I have friends online who know that I've been on incel discord servers and have even had group chats with them with my incel friends present and they don't seem to make the connection unless I outright say it.

My parents seem to be in denial (I think the idea just makes them too sad for them to accept it) and none of my family beyond that cares.
My question is how aware do you think people around you are of your situation? Granted some of it must come from the fact that everyone's life is busy and filled with other people so it's difficult to know or mull over the ongoings of you or other people, but that can only explain so much ignorance on the part of peoples lives you're close to. I think the blue-pilled mindset (for lack of a better word) makes some people gloss over mentally the reality of people in their life who can't get into relationships / have sex. It doesn't matter if they know you've been trying to get into a relationship for decades with nothing to show for it or that none of them would want to date you or that you're still a virgin at an old age despite being very open about your interest in sex. Their world view doesn't accept people who want but are unable to lose their virginities or find romantic partners, so they just assume despite everything in front of them that you aren't that case. IDK, it's a very broad topic and I've tried to generalize the mindset of a large group of people. I just don't understand why it's so difficult for some people to see me and what I'm dealing with when I make no attempts to hide it. It feels kind of alienating and I wish the world wasn't like this. I'm sure some of you have insight or had very different experiences I'd like to hear about.
There aren’t any cool women. They would reject you in a heartbeat. As for your question, yes my family is aware that I’m an incel, and never ask me about why I don’t have a girlfriend, because they know how ugly and autistic I am.
 
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fakecel if people still ask if whether you're a virgin or not, my family makes fun of my virginity and my face, aswell as everyone else
Your family sounds deeply unhealthy. No one should be treated like that omg.
I don't have any real friend, back when i was in HS people in my class knew i was an incel in the sense that i couldn't get a gf even though i tried.Most people know it's over for you but they won't tell you straight to your face because they want to appear politically correct.The only person i befriended a little in HS was this rich truecel and they said multiple times he would never be able to get a gf behind his back but still lied to him when he asked for advice

You never really know for sure how people feel or think.
There aren’t any cool women. They would reject you in a heartbeat. As for your question, yes my family is aware that I’m an incel, and never ask me about why I don’t have a girlfriend, because they know how ugly and autistic I am.
A girl can still be an alright person even if they'd never be interested in me. Sorry to hear about your situation.
 
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My older brother used to give me sex ed and tips about girls when i was 17, he stopped so he clearly realised theres no hope. All my friends know im incel, the most bluepilled ones still say shit like "love will find u bro". My mom wants grandkids so she prob will never accept it, on new years eve she whispered in my ear "find a girlfriend this year" jfl
 
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I was virgin shamed In 9th grade because everyone knew that no girl had ever touched me.
 
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I don't think people can make the distinction between incel and someone who's asexual or hasn't been in a relationship for some other odd reason. Not right off the bat. However, if they know that you're trying to ascend they will probably sense any bitterness/frustration that you might have. Then they will really know.

So yeah, most incel's families are probably aware of the person's inceldom. Nobody wants to touch such an uncomfortable subject though. Not past the point of jokingly asking "Hey when are you getting a girlfriend?" anyway.
 
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Pretty much honestly. Especially when they see you never have a girlfriend
 
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My parents know and my sisters do too. I never said anything to them about inceldom and one day my sister sent me an article about how “Incels” were going to shoot up shit when Joker film premiered. Then she joked about how she hopes I won’t be a mass shooter.

Before that I didn’t even know my parents or sisters knew I was incel, but they do know I’m virgin and a diseased loser.

Yeah people irl seem to be bluepilled as fuck and assume a complete subhuman still has sexual history.
I remember I was talking with some Tyrone and when I told him I was a virgin he was surprised as fuck and said "wait your a virgin :giga:?"
Why would you ever tell another person you are virgin?
 
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Its really obvious, one look at such a hideous mug and everyone knows
 
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I larped in the past about getting laid to my brother, I have (escorted) while travelling when I was younger, so i'm not sure what my parents think. They know i'm on the brink of suicide. * Don't think my friends know. I moved away and stopped talking to everyone so it doesn't matter anyway. I'm broke now, so I just tell people I gave up on pleasing women and am too depressed to care.
 
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Friends can family doesnt want to accept it
 
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Family can. Friends know I never get laid but they don't know I'm a virgin.
 
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My older brother used to give me sex ed and tips about girls when i was 17, he stopped so he clearly realised theres no hope. All my friends know im incel, the most bluepilled ones still say shit like "love will find u bro". My mom wants grandkids so she prob will never accept it, on new years eve she whispered in my ear "find a girlfriend this year" jfl
Rubs salt into the wound when people say stuff like that tbh
 

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