A bit of dominance games among friends is one thing and is arguably a way of establishing trust. Like guys sparring together in a MMA gym. There are a lot of rules of behavior that need to be followed by both guys to maintain amicable relationships within the gym. In the case of most incels though, a lot of these social interactions are the equivalent of it being your first day in the gym and one of the higher ranking guys whois bigger than you singles you out as a "sparring partner" and exploits your inexperience and size difference to flex their ego. Any gym where the other guys allow this happen would be judged as a bad gym by pretty much everyone. Yet, that is the exact sort of society that is being condoned by these same people.