cvh1991
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It's interesting to consider how female on male rape is generally not perceived as being all that terrible even when it does happen and also interesting to note that female on male rape convictions (or cases where women sleep with minors) receive significantly less severe sentences on average than the other way around. Of course in general in the USA for example women are punished with more leniency than men for the same crimes looking at the statistics (though men do appear to commit "most" crime generally). Source: https://www.law.umich.edu/newsandinfo/features/Pages/starr_gender_disparities.aspx
Something that is obviously not PC at all to talk about (or even think about/question) it is the title question, but it is something I've been considering recently. Of course it's possible that I'm missing something or that my own conclusion is incorrect at this point, but is having sex with someone you don't find attractive and/or don't want to have sex with really so terrible as it's made out to be?
For example, suppose a woman ties me down while I'm asleep then forceably has sex with me or something -- I have no choice in the scenario and we'll assume I'm not attracted to her. Don't get me wrong, I expect that would be unpleasant/uncomfortable, but ... I don't think it sounds THAT bad as long as that's all it was. My expectation is that it would certainly be an unpleasant experience -- I'd be pissed/probably break off my friendship with that person afterwards, but pretty much everyone goes far beyond this assessment and thinks this is one of the very worst things that a person can do to another (up there with murder in the mainstream if not worse) and that it will destroy someone's entire life/psyche. To me, that just seems a bit ... hyperbolic I suppose.
Sort of in that vein, you know how when minor aged men bangs their older teacher and it's illegal? And how the general response to that happening is far less severe than when a minor aged woman bangs their older male teacher? Some people resolve this by saying that's not right and we should also react just as explosively for the minor men scenario as we do for the minor woman scenario but there is another interpretation too I think.
When a minor male has sex with someone older many guys/people don't see this as much of a big deal -- if anything guys are often happy for em getting to achieve that/its a symbol of pride. Alternatively if a male, even a minor male, is raped, many see it as something unfortunate/unpleasant perhaps, but often don't see it as much of a big deal it seems to me -- certainly not comparatively to the other way around and what I'm wondering then is -- maybe that's actually the more reasonable response and the response we give women, well, spoils them I guess. I think in general women don't seem to handle criticism or harsh experience as well as men do and part of that is probably because women are actually given attention when they complain and suffer while men usually aren't so men learn to shut up and deal with it in stride/carry themselves whereas women learn to vent publicly since it results in validation/support for them.
I don't know though, maybe all this is bullshit and I'm totally wrong, let me know what you think. I'm sorry in advance if what I've said is mentally retarded -- cuz ... I dunno it could be
Something that is obviously not PC at all to talk about (or even think about/question) it is the title question, but it is something I've been considering recently. Of course it's possible that I'm missing something or that my own conclusion is incorrect at this point, but is having sex with someone you don't find attractive and/or don't want to have sex with really so terrible as it's made out to be?
For example, suppose a woman ties me down while I'm asleep then forceably has sex with me or something -- I have no choice in the scenario and we'll assume I'm not attracted to her. Don't get me wrong, I expect that would be unpleasant/uncomfortable, but ... I don't think it sounds THAT bad as long as that's all it was. My expectation is that it would certainly be an unpleasant experience -- I'd be pissed/probably break off my friendship with that person afterwards, but pretty much everyone goes far beyond this assessment and thinks this is one of the very worst things that a person can do to another (up there with murder in the mainstream if not worse) and that it will destroy someone's entire life/psyche. To me, that just seems a bit ... hyperbolic I suppose.
Sort of in that vein, you know how when minor aged men bangs their older teacher and it's illegal? And how the general response to that happening is far less severe than when a minor aged woman bangs their older male teacher? Some people resolve this by saying that's not right and we should also react just as explosively for the minor men scenario as we do for the minor woman scenario but there is another interpretation too I think.
When a minor male has sex with someone older many guys/people don't see this as much of a big deal -- if anything guys are often happy for em getting to achieve that/its a symbol of pride. Alternatively if a male, even a minor male, is raped, many see it as something unfortunate/unpleasant perhaps, but often don't see it as much of a big deal it seems to me -- certainly not comparatively to the other way around and what I'm wondering then is -- maybe that's actually the more reasonable response and the response we give women, well, spoils them I guess. I think in general women don't seem to handle criticism or harsh experience as well as men do and part of that is probably because women are actually given attention when they complain and suffer while men usually aren't so men learn to shut up and deal with it in stride/carry themselves whereas women learn to vent publicly since it results in validation/support for them.
I don't know though, maybe all this is bullshit and I'm totally wrong, let me know what you think. I'm sorry in advance if what I've said is mentally retarded -- cuz ... I dunno it could be