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It's so sad that we replace socialization with this forum.

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Normal are constantly making memories, and those memories are almost always related to doing stuff with other people.

I tried for the past 2 days to enjoy a whole bunch of stuff: movies, anime, manga, novels, games. And they all felt so hollow.

And for example about anime ... I recalled nostalgically stuff from like 5th grade. I guess that's around the time I stopped forming memories, or at least a few years before. There was a girl in class also watching anime, and while she didn't pay any attention to me even when I liked her till 12th grade (she was kind of a nerd and a weird girl so I guess I thought I might've had a chance with her, but I never did though I'm sure she knew I liked her), I still have memories associated with watching a few anime series that she was discussing during break time, at least with others.

I watched those anime series all alone but I still am nostalgic after them because they had a social context. Because I heard others talking about them, and maybe I said a few words too (though iirc I might've kept it secret that I was watching these things).

But now I have no memories for so many years cause ... they lack social context. Even now, I can't properly enjoy things, cause it's just me consuming and forgetting once the series is over. Because there's no social investment, no emotional investment, it's just something I consumed like a bag of chips and then I forget it forever.

I guess this is why I posted so much on this forum. It felt like it gave my days a social element. Felt like posting and having these posts read by some people would give these years some sort of feeling when I recall them afterwards. Like somebody out there remembers me for who I was these few years. Cause unlike that 5th grade time when I was watching anime, for the rest of my life I'll look back to my teens and my twenties and it'll just be a blur. I won't be nostalgic after anything cause no memories were formed. My actions had no social context so they had no emotional weight, no point, no way to turn into memories.

And worst of all, I'm now an adult, and adults are supposed to already have had a bunch of social experiences, to have a social circle, and from now on for them it's just grinding at a job and starting a family and going through life with less time for friends and such. Not that it matters, I'm too avoidant and anxious to a pathological level to actually change and start socializing. I tried, it just ended up worse for me in the end.
 
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Indeed its very sad thing, but no choice for us.
 
to be fair all normies nowadays are on their instagram 24/7
 
What would you prefer, staring at the wall all day? Nobody chose to be here
 
I know how you feel; I lost interest in vidya, and some other things. I mostly LDAR.
 
to be fair all normies nowadays are on their instagram 24/7
Even so, it's sort of a social contex, it has a small emotional impact. They like and comment each other's stuff, they discuss and share opinions and thoughts and such. Even if they're at home or with their nose in their phone, they're still part of real life, of a community, of a social context. Meanwhile I'm all alone doing things no one knows about and even I will forget.
 
Do we? In order to have this as a replacement for socializing, we have to want to be here.
 
I'm not a normie or even a failed one so I don't care, socialization is nothing to me, I couldn't care less.
 
That’s the way it is.
 
I hate being on here sometimes but no other choice.
I was thinking of leaving and just staring at walls or coping with other hopeless bs
I need to find a hobby, I definitely encourage it for all of us. All I do is masturbate, and LDAR.
 
During my year long requested ban, nobody to talk to and normies are boring as shit anyways. They only get away with it because they are average and higher in looks and NT. My social life in elementary, middle, high school and college are all the same, aka nobody to talk to and im just in my room rotting.
 
less sad than going to clubs and end up with a felony and getting raped in prison for cold approaching
 
less annoying than trying to interact with normies who you cant relate at all to
 
What good is making memories like normies?, all that really does is clogged up yur brain and wear down the batteries.

You will always need sum free space in yur brain harddrive for a rainy day
 
I haven’t left my house in a week I’m fine with it the older I get the weirder normies get
 
I haven’t left my house in a week I’m fine with it the older I get the weirder normies get
A Week? I haven't left my house for 6 months. I only left the house back in May to buy my Mother a Birthday Cake, after that I've been inside the house rotting away.
 
fag we were forced here by foids and lack of any other choice

That's my point, few of us "want" to be here. In fact, by being forced here we might hate it here.
 
A Week? I haven't left my house for 6 months. I only left the house back in May to buy my Mother a Birthday Cake, after that I've been inside the house rotting away.

I leave to buy drugs and smokes

And guns
 
Actually, I have friends that I spend time with. I don't socialize just here, I also socialize a lot in real life. That's why I don't post as much here as others do.
 
its because of society is the way we are. what else are we supposed to do with a society that promotes loneliness towards ugly males
 
Normal are constantly making memories, and those memories are almost always related to doing stuff with other people.

I tried for the past 2 days to enjoy a whole bunch of stuff: movies, anime, manga, novels, games. And they all felt so hollow.

And for example about anime ... I recalled nostalgically stuff from like 5th grade. I guess that's around the time I stopped forming memories, or at least a few years before. There was a girl in class also watching anime, and while she didn't pay any attention to me even when I liked her till 12th grade (she was kind of a nerd and a weird girl so I guess I thought I might've had a chance with her, but I never did though I'm sure she knew I liked her), I still have memories associated with watching a few anime series that she was discussing during break time, at least with others.

I watched those anime series all alone but I still am nostalgic after them because they had a social context. Because I heard others talking about them, and maybe I said a few words too (though iirc I might've kept it secret that I was watching these things).

But now I have no memories for so many years cause ... they lack social context. Even now, I can't properly enjoy things, cause it's just me consuming and forgetting once the series is over. Because there's no social investment, no emotional investment, it's just something I consumed like a bag of chips and then I forget it forever.

I guess this is why I posted so much on this forum. It felt like it gave my days a social element. Felt like posting and having these posts read by some people would give these years some sort of feeling when I recall them afterwards. Like somebody out there remembers me for who I was these few years. Cause unlike that 5th grade time when I was watching anime, for the rest of my life I'll look back to my teens and my twenties and it'll just be a blur. I won't be nostalgic after anything cause no memories were formed. My actions had no social context so they had no emotional weight, no point, no way to turn into memories.

And worst of all, I'm now an adult, and adults are supposed to already have had a bunch of social experiences, to have a social circle, and from now on for them it's just grinding at a job and starting a family and going through life with less time for friends and such. Not that it matters, I'm too avoidant and anxious to a pathological level to actually change and start socializing. I tried, it just ended up worse for me in the end.
I can relate of what you say, but only happened to me when I started college and lost contact with my geeky HS friends. After I finished it, I recontacted them (I was around 23-26) and we started playing wargames. I thought exactly what you do now: if I do these things, that I used to enjoy in a social context, I might enjoy them again. I didn't. It didn't feel like gaming. It felt like a task. Everything felt like a task at that point in my life.

What I think happens to people like you (or me back then) is that we are overstimulated, nothing brings us enthusiasm, and without it we cannot built rapport because there is no connection points as nothing is relevant. In other words: mentally crippled for lonely (teen) years.

To get out of there and resensitize myself, I stopped consuming so much media, started healthy habits, and did agapemaxxing for its antidepressive properties. Worked out pretty well in the end.
 
Damn this thread really got pinned by the mods :lul:
You'd think they wouldn't promote a thread that is talking about how we'd rather be socializing IRL instead of this forum.
 
Damn this thread really got pinned by the mods :lul:
You'd think they wouldn't promote a thread that is talking about how we'd rather be socializing IRL instead of this forum.
@anon1822 s post are deserve to be pinned.
 
I don't have a single memory in my entire fucking life I can be nostalgic about that includes anyone else and not video games.

Another high IQ post from you brother.
 
@anon1822 s post are deserve to be pinned.
His thread was good as usual.
It's just ironic that this thread was pinned when the subject was about how it would have been better for us to not be forced to rely on this site for socialization.
 
@anon1822 s post are deserve to be pinned.
I don't have a single memory in my entire fucking life I can be nostalgic about that includes anyone else and not video games.

Another high IQ post from you brother.
His thread was good as usual.
It's just ironic that this thread was pinned when the subject was about how it would have been better for us to not be forced to rely on this site for socialization.
Thanks bros. But damn, this post was pinned? I just noticed how literally the second word I meant to type was omitted. I didn't type normal "people" so it's just a broken sentence. I swear to god my brain is rotten, I do this kind of shit all the time. I wonder how I'll write my thesis cause I sure as hell don't have the energy to proofread, in fact I hate proofreading when it comes to university stuff, spending 1 extra second for that shit feels like slow and painful torture.
I can relate of what you say, but only happened to me when I started college and lost contact with my geeky HS friends. After I finished it, I recontacted them (I was around 23-26) and we started playing wargames. I thought exactly what you do now: if I do these things, that I used to enjoy in a social context, I might enjoy them again. I didn't. It didn't feel like gaming. It felt like a task. Everything felt like a task at that point in my life.

What I think happens to people like you (or me back then) is that we are overstimulated, nothing brings us enthusiasm, and without it we cannot built rapport because there is no connection points as nothing is relevant. In other words: mentally crippled for lonely (teen) years.

To get out of there and resensitize myself, I stopped consuming so much media, started healthy habits, and did agapemaxxing for its antidepressive properties. Worked out pretty well in the end.
Very good point, iirc the lack of enthusiasm is uncannily true. I'm going to take this even further and I'll say that even if we can muster up some enthusiasm, for me the anxiety would still override it. I guess because of negative experiences with others in the past, I'd rather avoid them and just keep my mouth shut even if we have something that's interesting and exciting for the both of us, than expose my interest and be burned as a result.
 
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Top tier relatable content as always

I dont feel like i've ever truly lived. If I somehow ascended and got a girl interested in me ... how would I ever talk about my past life? There's nothing to talk about, I don't remember anything. I'd have to make shit up and invent a whole life
 
to be fair all normies nowadays are on their instagram 24/7

cope
Actually, I have friends that I spend time with. I don't socialize just here, I also socialize a lot in real life. That's why I don't post as much here as others do.

>Don’t post as much as others do
>12k posts a year

:waitwhat:

Edit: Just checked your time online which only averages at 1 hour/day. Disregard my comment regarding your post count.
 
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to be fair all normies nowadays are on their instagram 24/7
It's true normies are very insecure and are constantly trying to overcompensate through social media. I have a normie friend and he spends more time than me socialising online 0 self control can't even watch a movie or something without checking the phone.
 
It's true normies are very insecure and are constantly trying to overcompensate through social media. I have a normie friend and he spends more time than me socialising online 0 self control can't even watch a movie or something without checking the phone.
yes its a wide spread issue, there is literally nothing to do with normies they are the most boring people in this world
 
Don’t fo
Normal are constantly making memories, and those memories are almost always related to doing stuff with other people.

I tried for the past 2 days to enjoy a whole bunch of stuff: movies, anime, manga, novels, games. And they all felt so hollow.

And for example about anime ... I recalled nostalgically stuff from like 5th grade. I guess that's around the time I stopped forming memories, or at least a few years before. There was a girl in class also watching anime, and while she didn't pay any attention to me even when I liked her till 12th grade (she was kind of a nerd and a weird girl so I guess I thought I might've had a chance with her, but I never did though I'm sure she knew I liked her), I still have memories associated with watching a few anime series that she was discussing during break time, at least with others.

I watched those anime series all alone but I still am nostalgic after them because they had a social context. Because I heard others talking about them, and maybe I said a few words too (though iirc I might've kept it secret that I was watching these things).

But now I have no memories for so many years cause ... they lack social context. Even now, I can't properly enjoy things, cause it's just me consuming and forgetting once the series is over. Because there's no social investment, no emotional investment, it's just something I consumed like a bag of chips and then I forget it forever.

I guess this is why I posted so much on this forum. It felt like it gave my days a social element. Felt like posting and having these posts read by some people would give these years some sort of feeling when I recall them afterwards. Like somebody out there remembers me for who I was these few years. Cause unlike that 5th grade time when I was watching anime, for the rest of my life I'll look back to my teens and my twenties and it'll just be a blur. I won't be nostalgic after anything cause no memories were formed. My actions had no social context so they had no emotional weight, no point, no way to turn into memories.

And worst of all, I'm now an adult, and adults are supposed to already have had a bunch of social experiences, to have a social circle, and from now on for them it's just grinding at a job and starting a family and going through life with less time for friends and such. Not that it matters, I'm too avoidant and anxious to a pathological level to actually change and start socializing. I tried, it just ended up worse for me in the end.

Don’t focus on what society says what you should be doing eg family and friebds.

focus on what you want, there is a lot of stuff to do on this planet in your limited time here. Don’t put your self in a box that you need find a girl and get married.

I would suggest in finding other incel friends who also chill alone and stuff and make a group. I was lucky enough to find these friend in school and I always keep in touch.

travel together to exotic plces and try new hobbies like ski and hiking. Travel to multiple new countries like Japan , Europe and thailand mexico.

Get your finances on point. As a man you should focus on that and you’ll feel free.
its because of society is the way we are. what else are we supposed to do with a society that promotes loneliness towards ugly males
Band together with other ugly males and enjoy life
 
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If you aren't a NEET, then it's definitely not your fault you aren't "social". You simply don't have anything that grabs normie attention, so they have no reason to reach you out or engage into conversations with you. Being or not being on the internet has no effect whether you can socialize in real life or not, actually normies use the internet as much as we do in order to access their Instagram, Facebook and TikTok shit.

Socialization is a meme normies use to strawman us. We simply lack the looks, status and skillset to make people interact and engage into social situations with us. People almost always expect something back, they look at you already thinking in which ways you could benefit them, that's what "socialization" is all about. We need to seriously stop romanticizing it.
 
What else is there jfl.
 
We get pushed to the side.
Even this site might get banned because people hate us so much
 
Holy shit I just noticed you can't keep memories if they have no social context? I mean, nothing is memorable alone. If you remember something, it's always the interactions with others.
 
Holy shit I just noticed you can't keep memories if they have no social context? I mean, nothing is memorable alone. If you remember something, it's always the interactions with others.
Yeah it was a weird realization for me too but the more I think about it the more I realize that's the case. Especially in the long term.
 
I'm not a normie or even a failed one so I don't care, socialization is nothing to me, I couldn't care less.
tbh

This post sounds like neurotypical problems ngl

On the contrary I hate forced socialization (at work, with roommates ....) I've always been better off alone.
 

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