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From cuckkit again
Go to almost any thread on the internet where a guy is asking for advice on dating.
The #1 response from almost all parties is to "better yourself". Whether that means going to the gym, taking care of your emotional issues, picking up a hobby, anything. Men are consistently told they need to improve themselves to enter the dating world.
Women are told this a lot less. Honestly, when most women complain about relationship troubles a lot of responses are supportive. They say that you're a catch no matter what and anyone would be lucky to love you. The timing just isn't right. Your last partner was just selfish. Hold in there and love will come your way.
To a guy, this has a compounding effect over time. It screams to men that you aren't lovable in your current state. Few men are, and the ones that are are just the ones that have gone through all the time and turmoil of "bettering themselves".
I think it's a big difference between how men and women perceive loneliness. For most guys it seems like an almost insurmountable obstacle - the only way to dig yourself out of loneliness is to put in enough hard work you rise to the top. It's exhausting and unsatisfying a lot of the time, or at least it seems that way. I'm not a woman so I guess I can't comment on that side of it but it seems like there's more support on that side of the coin.
I really want people to just sometimes support men and say it's okay to have negative feelings about being alone, and that they aren't unlovable unless they do specific things society has deemed valuable.
Go to almost any thread on the internet where a guy is asking for advice on dating.
The #1 response from almost all parties is to "better yourself". Whether that means going to the gym, taking care of your emotional issues, picking up a hobby, anything. Men are consistently told they need to improve themselves to enter the dating world.
Women are told this a lot less. Honestly, when most women complain about relationship troubles a lot of responses are supportive. They say that you're a catch no matter what and anyone would be lucky to love you. The timing just isn't right. Your last partner was just selfish. Hold in there and love will come your way.
To a guy, this has a compounding effect over time. It screams to men that you aren't lovable in your current state. Few men are, and the ones that are are just the ones that have gone through all the time and turmoil of "bettering themselves".
I think it's a big difference between how men and women perceive loneliness. For most guys it seems like an almost insurmountable obstacle - the only way to dig yourself out of loneliness is to put in enough hard work you rise to the top. It's exhausting and unsatisfying a lot of the time, or at least it seems that way. I'm not a woman so I guess I can't comment on that side of it but it seems like there's more support on that side of the coin.
I really want people to just sometimes support men and say it's okay to have negative feelings about being alone, and that they aren't unlovable unless they do specific things society has deemed valuable.
