i got sick of going on dates with guys who were comparing me to their hotter exes, and was broke. i was tired of trying to be the perfect potential housewife in being chaste for the first several months waiting to have sex with a guy only to discover that he's not interested in me as long term and is keeping me around until someone better shows up.
SO i started charging dudes to fuck me. no ifs, ands, or buts about it. no one gets a free ride ever again.
i have to be honest -- doing sex work has increased my sense of self. i used to believe i was unlovable and ugly. now i don't believe that one bit. it taught me boundaries and how to screen men.
if i had learned the screening skills in sex work when i was in my 20s trying to get a boyfriend, i would be married already. but, now i'm in my 30s so it's too late to find someone. that's okay because i'm laughing all the way to the bank!
i have men who fly across the country to see me now and pay me more than my listed rate. it feels incredible to have that power handed back to you after being told by society you're worthless.
i see now that wives and mothers are the ones who come out with nothing when they decide to get married. look at the bullshit men pull in relationships.
what is interesting is that within the escorting world, there is a common function of it in that there are millions of married men who will pay to sleep with a girl he would never talk to in a bar....not the other way around. it's blown my mind!
for me, monetizing my hook ups was the best decision ever.
i can't even really get into it here, but sex work has literally saved my life. that said, i don't encourage anyone to go out and do it.
it has opened my eyes to the fact that Stacys who get married/have LTRs don't really know who their partners are. sex work exists EVERYWHERE. what shocks me is that so many women are in complete and utter ignorance about what men are capable of, and how men everywhere are paying for it.
