Just as we are vulnerable to erotic assaults of fatal females, many women have no resistance against an uninterested protective commander man without sexual intentions, because they are looking for muggles ready to serve them for all eternity. This selfish impulse, however, can be used in our favor because it is a open flank. The human females are not invulnerable as shown to the men who, at first glance, seem to them uninteresting.
When the female is absolutely refractory to contact and approach, it is usually because she believes that is overly desired or else she wants to induce men to believe that they want her. Therefore, the more we show our sexual intention, the more we close the passage. The more you look at her greedily, insinuate yourself and insist, the more will be rejected. The only alternative left to conquer it is the opposite way, acting as if you could desire all in the world, but her. If, instead of pretending, you can really see her as a normal woman, the same or even less interesting than the others, it will be even better.
I shall now better expose this feminine weakness in the field of seduction; obviously, I am thinking in the absolutely "difficult" women because the "easy" do not require work. Difficult women are those who are absolutely refractory, which no one can establish sympathetic affinity to conquer them. Usually they are frowning and no one has the courage to come close or even look. They may also be those beauties that scare even the toughest of men (I refer to the arrogant and snobbish, and not to the humble, gentle and sincere).
Let us see what happens. Given the duplicity of the meaning attributed to sex, in front of the masculine desire, the females visualize two possibilities: one that they desire and the other against which they feel a instinctive horror. The possibility they want is to be loved and what they detestate is to be battered. This last one is what makes them so prone to hysteria. The unconscious fear of being battered is what leads them to reject the loser, the incapable of seducing them, the shy, the sticky, the infantilized and, in general, every harasser or persecutor. This contradiction makes them disconcerting because they fear and desire at the same time. The contradiction of feelings, inherent in contradiction of the possible consequences of masculine desire, leads them to act in a paradoxical way that does not allow us to know what they really want.
The slightest suspicion of any intention of sexual violence can trigger a hysterical crisis that will lead to a hostile social chain against the harasser. All care is too little to not be confused with a loser and therein lies the problem because we have to approach, establish contact and conquer them without harassing (and without violating her emotions). Hence the importance of knowing in how to read correctly the signs, never to insist against the resistances, to know how to approach with a certain amount of hypocrisy (I refer to a form of healthy hypocrisy, popularly known as "brazen-faced") without transmitting that we are desperate, and never force absolutely anything at all. We have to cross only the passages that are open to us. But the passages will not be opened unless we hide our desire. The explicit masculine desire cause fear, aversion and disgust, contrary to what the ignorant think. It is repulsive. That is why if you show your penis in public you will go to jail immediately while your woman neighbor, if she takes her clothes off in downtown, will only gently be taken to the doctor ("The man shows the penis to excite and the woman shouts" (ALBERONI, 1986/undated). The explicit masculine desire closes the passage to intimacy.
In the feminine mind there is a constant opening, a passage which never closes itself. A skilled seducer quickly identifies and use it. It is a openness to intimacy "without malice" with a man who convinces that is disinterested, without ulterior motives, without sexual goals but at the same time protective and dominant. Paradoxically, the more we conceal the sexual intent, the more openness to "innocent" intimacy we get. That is why you should be wary of innocent friends of your wife.
The key to getting close to the frowns is to narrow the intimacy gradually while showing indifference, naturalness and disinterest allied to a slightly protective and aggressive posture. Depending on the degree of resistance and antipathy of our "prey" (this is a metaphorical expression), we need to simulate indifference not only in relation to sex but even with regard to friendship and the lady's own person.
The gynecologists, for example, are allowed to look inside the vaginas simply because they are based on the belief that their goals are merely therapeutic. The woman who opens her legs does so from the unshakable belief in his honesty and lack of sexual interests. Following the same logic, however, going further, the gynecologist can touch her clitoris (I believe that was what Nelson Rodrigues was referring to in his phrases about gynecologists) under the claim of performing an examination and even excite her. As long as the belief is preserved, there will be no reaction against the touch, in the sense of rejecting it. In the 19th century, doctors even came to excite and masturbate women as a way to treatment to try to cure them of frigidity. This is how the vibrator was created: as a medical tool to replace hands.
Obviously, many were not cured in one session, others discovered that they felt nothing when they were at home with their husband but only with the doctor and then returned to the office many times... This is a proof that belief and confidence in the absence of sexual intentions allows the woman to open and surrender herself little by little. The same is true of psychotherapists, for whom they reveal secrets that would never reveal to anyone, much less to their husbands. Deep down, the females want to feel welcomed, comprehended and accepted as they are, without any sexual favor to be required in return. They want to feel secure, to have a harbor in which they can dock.
Our friends will flee if you are lustful and widely show your intention. In order for us to approach without they fleeing or rejecting us, we have to show ourselves disinterested in her erotic attributes and, at the same time, strengthen the bonds of intimacy, giving protection, orders (I refer to the domain consented and requested by the woman herself), guiding them and also by listening or helping them. Sometimes, to disarm them, it is necessary to rebuke them, stating that we do it for their own good. And, in some extreme cases, even reject her approximation or presence, hurting her emotionally (I am referring to legitimate emotional defense).
It is not about being the little confessor friend or the good asexual lad who does not desire anyone. What I am suggesting here is something totally different. It is about being a superior male who does not want her specifically for having a chance to get better ones but that reveals himself a real man in the treatment, without fear, without despair to please and without fear of losing.
Note that I am not stating that friendship is a good way to seduction. What I am affirming is that women retract themselves when we announce our desire, and open themshelves when they believe that we have no desire for them. None of this means that the women are attracted to friends or that the friendship is an efficient means of seduction. What happens is that they offer their treasure to those who do not want it and refuse it to those who want it. I am asserting that the transparent intention drives off and the indifference, attracts.
The need to be accepted with their "morally reprehensible acts" (Caligaris says of this detail that total sexual delivery is blocked by fear of patriarchal repression and is often experienced only in prostitution. It seems to me that this fear is transferred by the adult woman in the relationship with the husband) is very strong and makes them vulnerable to men who do not demonstrate ulterior sexual intentions and do not react with disapproval to the mistakes they make. When they know you, they gradually reveal to you the "ugliest" or "wrong" things they have ever done in life, observing your reactions. To the extent that they see they are accepted, or rather, that you are morally indifferent, they create more confidence and the confessions deepen at the same time that intimacy grows. So, without them realizing, they are already involved emotionally and sexually.
This is the mental passage that never closes and through which anyone can win any woman as long as they treat her correctly. There is no heterosexual woman who resists the right attack by this channel because all of them have a desperate need for complicity and to raise self-esteem when they do not feel desired. If any resist, it will be for some inability of the seductive candidate that resulted in some subliminal communication of intention.
The women are also absolutely vulnerable to friendships and, when they reject a friendly attempt to contact, it is because they perceive that the candidate to "friend without evil" wants something more. And they perceive it because this one shows himself as a male in need and therefore of low quality. Those who avoid contact and behave in a inaccessible way do not do it out of respect or love to the man they live with, or with whom they commit to, but rather because they do not have hopes that there are sincere friendly intentions on the part of those who cross their way and try to approach. It occurs that, in the cases of the snobbish, this is the only possible way of approximation that remains, besides the calculated "horror", which should be understood as the act of shocking and to scandalize in the correct way (and inoffensive, of course), a feature that should not be used very often but only when all others fail.
The ability to conceal the true intention confers an irresistible power of approach. I suggest, however, that we do not hide the ulterior motives, but that we do not have them at all (for then we will be truer), because the ideal is to reach a state of indifference in relation to be accepted or not.
Once the ability to prove specific disinterest with perfection and for long time is conquered, the difficulty will reside, then, in crossing the boundaries of intimacy and entering deeply into the feminine world. This is a form of psychological penetration that one gets by disinterestedly talk with the woman about herself, making her feel welcomed and safe.
The direction of the dialogues should revolve around general amorous issues and later on the specific amorous issues of the woman that we are seducing. The sexual thematic can only be introduced after a long time.
The more intense the manifestation of uninterested care, dominant, guiding and protective, the more emotionally drunken (all of this must be true and not simulated. Do not use this knowledge for evil) she will become.
Knowing this, the human females put special care to not be deceived and never believe at first sight in our disinterest. Some may resist for a long time by checking what are our intentions. The exclusively sexual intention is seen as aggressive and uninteresting.
The feminine emotional defenses are crossed through attitudes that communicate indifference, specific sexual disinterest for the "prey" and, at the same time, guidance, command and protection. The image to represent is more or less that of someone disinterested sexually in who commands but not asexual in general (be careful!) There can not be hesitation, vacillation or doubt in the treatment. With this path, one penetrates on the world of the most forbidden and difficult women. There are men who have seduced unthinkable women only with this procedure.
When the female is absolutely refractory to contact and approach, it is usually because she believes that is overly desired or else she wants to induce men to believe that they want her. Therefore, the more we show our sexual intention, the more we close the passage. The more you look at her greedily, insinuate yourself and insist, the more will be rejected. The only alternative left to conquer it is the opposite way, acting as if you could desire all in the world, but her. If, instead of pretending, you can really see her as a normal woman, the same or even less interesting than the others, it will be even better.
I shall now better expose this feminine weakness in the field of seduction; obviously, I am thinking in the absolutely "difficult" women because the "easy" do not require work. Difficult women are those who are absolutely refractory, which no one can establish sympathetic affinity to conquer them. Usually they are frowning and no one has the courage to come close or even look. They may also be those beauties that scare even the toughest of men (I refer to the arrogant and snobbish, and not to the humble, gentle and sincere).
Let us see what happens. Given the duplicity of the meaning attributed to sex, in front of the masculine desire, the females visualize two possibilities: one that they desire and the other against which they feel a instinctive horror. The possibility they want is to be loved and what they detestate is to be battered. This last one is what makes them so prone to hysteria. The unconscious fear of being battered is what leads them to reject the loser, the incapable of seducing them, the shy, the sticky, the infantilized and, in general, every harasser or persecutor. This contradiction makes them disconcerting because they fear and desire at the same time. The contradiction of feelings, inherent in contradiction of the possible consequences of masculine desire, leads them to act in a paradoxical way that does not allow us to know what they really want.
The slightest suspicion of any intention of sexual violence can trigger a hysterical crisis that will lead to a hostile social chain against the harasser. All care is too little to not be confused with a loser and therein lies the problem because we have to approach, establish contact and conquer them without harassing (and without violating her emotions). Hence the importance of knowing in how to read correctly the signs, never to insist against the resistances, to know how to approach with a certain amount of hypocrisy (I refer to a form of healthy hypocrisy, popularly known as "brazen-faced") without transmitting that we are desperate, and never force absolutely anything at all. We have to cross only the passages that are open to us. But the passages will not be opened unless we hide our desire. The explicit masculine desire cause fear, aversion and disgust, contrary to what the ignorant think. It is repulsive. That is why if you show your penis in public you will go to jail immediately while your woman neighbor, if she takes her clothes off in downtown, will only gently be taken to the doctor ("The man shows the penis to excite and the woman shouts" (ALBERONI, 1986/undated). The explicit masculine desire closes the passage to intimacy.
In the feminine mind there is a constant opening, a passage which never closes itself. A skilled seducer quickly identifies and use it. It is a openness to intimacy "without malice" with a man who convinces that is disinterested, without ulterior motives, without sexual goals but at the same time protective and dominant. Paradoxically, the more we conceal the sexual intent, the more openness to "innocent" intimacy we get. That is why you should be wary of innocent friends of your wife.
The key to getting close to the frowns is to narrow the intimacy gradually while showing indifference, naturalness and disinterest allied to a slightly protective and aggressive posture. Depending on the degree of resistance and antipathy of our "prey" (this is a metaphorical expression), we need to simulate indifference not only in relation to sex but even with regard to friendship and the lady's own person.
The gynecologists, for example, are allowed to look inside the vaginas simply because they are based on the belief that their goals are merely therapeutic. The woman who opens her legs does so from the unshakable belief in his honesty and lack of sexual interests. Following the same logic, however, going further, the gynecologist can touch her clitoris (I believe that was what Nelson Rodrigues was referring to in his phrases about gynecologists) under the claim of performing an examination and even excite her. As long as the belief is preserved, there will be no reaction against the touch, in the sense of rejecting it. In the 19th century, doctors even came to excite and masturbate women as a way to treatment to try to cure them of frigidity. This is how the vibrator was created: as a medical tool to replace hands.
Obviously, many were not cured in one session, others discovered that they felt nothing when they were at home with their husband but only with the doctor and then returned to the office many times... This is a proof that belief and confidence in the absence of sexual intentions allows the woman to open and surrender herself little by little. The same is true of psychotherapists, for whom they reveal secrets that would never reveal to anyone, much less to their husbands. Deep down, the females want to feel welcomed, comprehended and accepted as they are, without any sexual favor to be required in return. They want to feel secure, to have a harbor in which they can dock.
Our friends will flee if you are lustful and widely show your intention. In order for us to approach without they fleeing or rejecting us, we have to show ourselves disinterested in her erotic attributes and, at the same time, strengthen the bonds of intimacy, giving protection, orders (I refer to the domain consented and requested by the woman herself), guiding them and also by listening or helping them. Sometimes, to disarm them, it is necessary to rebuke them, stating that we do it for their own good. And, in some extreme cases, even reject her approximation or presence, hurting her emotionally (I am referring to legitimate emotional defense).
It is not about being the little confessor friend or the good asexual lad who does not desire anyone. What I am suggesting here is something totally different. It is about being a superior male who does not want her specifically for having a chance to get better ones but that reveals himself a real man in the treatment, without fear, without despair to please and without fear of losing.
Note that I am not stating that friendship is a good way to seduction. What I am affirming is that women retract themselves when we announce our desire, and open themshelves when they believe that we have no desire for them. None of this means that the women are attracted to friends or that the friendship is an efficient means of seduction. What happens is that they offer their treasure to those who do not want it and refuse it to those who want it. I am asserting that the transparent intention drives off and the indifference, attracts.
The need to be accepted with their "morally reprehensible acts" (Caligaris says of this detail that total sexual delivery is blocked by fear of patriarchal repression and is often experienced only in prostitution. It seems to me that this fear is transferred by the adult woman in the relationship with the husband) is very strong and makes them vulnerable to men who do not demonstrate ulterior sexual intentions and do not react with disapproval to the mistakes they make. When they know you, they gradually reveal to you the "ugliest" or "wrong" things they have ever done in life, observing your reactions. To the extent that they see they are accepted, or rather, that you are morally indifferent, they create more confidence and the confessions deepen at the same time that intimacy grows. So, without them realizing, they are already involved emotionally and sexually.
This is the mental passage that never closes and through which anyone can win any woman as long as they treat her correctly. There is no heterosexual woman who resists the right attack by this channel because all of them have a desperate need for complicity and to raise self-esteem when they do not feel desired. If any resist, it will be for some inability of the seductive candidate that resulted in some subliminal communication of intention.
The women are also absolutely vulnerable to friendships and, when they reject a friendly attempt to contact, it is because they perceive that the candidate to "friend without evil" wants something more. And they perceive it because this one shows himself as a male in need and therefore of low quality. Those who avoid contact and behave in a inaccessible way do not do it out of respect or love to the man they live with, or with whom they commit to, but rather because they do not have hopes that there are sincere friendly intentions on the part of those who cross their way and try to approach. It occurs that, in the cases of the snobbish, this is the only possible way of approximation that remains, besides the calculated "horror", which should be understood as the act of shocking and to scandalize in the correct way (and inoffensive, of course), a feature that should not be used very often but only when all others fail.
The ability to conceal the true intention confers an irresistible power of approach. I suggest, however, that we do not hide the ulterior motives, but that we do not have them at all (for then we will be truer), because the ideal is to reach a state of indifference in relation to be accepted or not.
Once the ability to prove specific disinterest with perfection and for long time is conquered, the difficulty will reside, then, in crossing the boundaries of intimacy and entering deeply into the feminine world. This is a form of psychological penetration that one gets by disinterestedly talk with the woman about herself, making her feel welcomed and safe.
The direction of the dialogues should revolve around general amorous issues and later on the specific amorous issues of the woman that we are seducing. The sexual thematic can only be introduced after a long time.
The more intense the manifestation of uninterested care, dominant, guiding and protective, the more emotionally drunken (all of this must be true and not simulated. Do not use this knowledge for evil) she will become.
Knowing this, the human females put special care to not be deceived and never believe at first sight in our disinterest. Some may resist for a long time by checking what are our intentions. The exclusively sexual intention is seen as aggressive and uninteresting.
The feminine emotional defenses are crossed through attitudes that communicate indifference, specific sexual disinterest for the "prey" and, at the same time, guidance, command and protection. The image to represent is more or less that of someone disinterested sexually in who commands but not asexual in general (be careful!) There can not be hesitation, vacillation or doubt in the treatment. With this path, one penetrates on the world of the most forbidden and difficult women. There are men who have seduced unthinkable women only with this procedure.
