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When you're older (~30+), women are looking to settle down (probably with betabux).But I'll always be an incel because of my mental issues and habits.

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Name is Abdu, live in Laos, born on 24.08.1992.
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Looks always matter, but once you're 30+ the game is a bit different. Women have been through the promiscuous phase already, most are looking to settle down. Some will settle down with guys that aren't exactly handsome, as long as they have everything else in order. Edit: It's not that I want to betabux, I'm saying for guys like me what else would there be? What other kind of "ascension" do you imagine for guys like us?

So I'll always remain an incel . I just have too many issues. My avoidance of people and autism or whatever the fuck I have first and foremost. That goes in hand with my habits. Ever since I was a kid I rushed home to just rot in front of a screen. Got much worse as a teenager, and once the depression started at ~13 my habits got out of control where I'd just rot at home as much as possible. I'd literally squeeze every possible minute I could to just lie in bed with my laptop next to me. Even getting a haircut every half a year or so would be a pain in the ass cause it meant an hour or two of free time being out of the house that could have been spent in bed with my laptop. School always was sheer torture and I'd rush home, I'd want to go home as soon as I got there.

My point is, no matter where life takes me, I know what will happen. Doesn't matter where I'll work or whatever, I know for a fact that my life will consist of wageslaving then rushing home as soon as possible to just rot in my bed with my laptop next to me. Doesn't help that due to all the cringe/humiliating moments in my life due to my autism and other stuff, I've learned to be very quiet.

I actually think I'm a very charismatic person, but I need to really warm up and feel comfortable with someone to display that. And I'll never do that, not again, I'm way too scarred to the point of PTSD to warm up to people again. Not that I'll get the chance, adults get few chances, you need to have a social circle by now or you'll never get one. Actually I may even not be avoidant, or I just became as a result of all the bad shit that happened, including bullying (not really the physical kind) and things like that. So when you add all these, I'm sure I'll always be an incel, even if there was a woman that found me suitable despite my bald head or other physical flaws, I'd never get the chance to meet her and warm up to her anyway.
 
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Looks always matter, but once you're 30+ the game is a bit different. Women have been through the promiscuous phase already, most are looking to settle down. Some will settle down with guys that aren't exactly handsome, as long as they have everything else in order. Edit: It's not that I want to betabux, I'm saying for guys like me what else would there be? What other kind of "ascension" do you imagine for guys like us?

So I'll always remain an incel . I just have too many issues. My avoidance of people and autism or whatever the fuck I have first and foremost. That goes in hand with my habits. Ever since I was a kid I rushed home to just rot in front of a screen. Got much worse as a teenager, and once the depression started at ~13 my habits got out of control where I'd just rot at home as much as possible. I'd literally squeeze every possible minute I could to just lie in bed with my laptop next to me. Even getting a haircut every half a year or so would be a pain in the ass cause it meant an hour or two of free time being out of the house that could have been spent in bed with my laptop. School always was sheer torture and I'd rush home, I'd want to go home as soon as I got there.

My point is, no matter where life takes me, I know what will happen. Doesn't matter where I'll work or whatever, I know for a fact that my life will consist of wageslaving then rushing home as soon as possible to just rot in my bed with my laptop next to me. Doesn't help that due to all the cringe/humiliating moments in my life due to my autism and other stuff, I've learned to be very quiet.

I actually think I'm a very charismatic person, but I need to really warm up and feel comfortable with someone to display that. And I'll never do that, not again, I'm way too scarred to the point of PTSD to warm up to people again. Not that I'll get the chance, adults get few chances, you need to have a social circle by now or you'll never get one. Actually I may even not be avoidant, or I just became as a result of all the bad shit that happened, including bullying (not really the physical kind) and things like that. So when you add all these, I'm sure I'll always be an incel, even if there was a woman that found me suitable despite my bald head or other physical flaws, I'd never get the chance to meet her and warm up to her anyway.
F, can relate to that a lot. My life consists out of studymaxxing and then spending time on the computer. Mainly posting on forums and here. It's unfuckingbelievable. Every second I don't spend on my computer feels wasted. The mental damage after years of rejection and unfulfilled desires is the worst thing; even if I woke up in the body of a chad tomorrow, absolutely nothing would change.

I always tell myself how someone like me could ever raise a child, because I never had a normal childhood due to bullying/etc., if I got a normal-looking or chad son how would I tell him how a heartbreak feels? I even envy the normalfags for all the bad feelings they have in association with relationships (like heartbreak), because everything is better than this total sensory deprivation. I never felt anything, neither good things nor bad things that normies feel, my life experience is literally nothing; I experienced neither the heights (e.g. feeling in love) nor the lows (e.g. a break-up), I never had a healthy relationship with another human being. The only job/hobbies I have are associated with my shitty STEM studies/jobs, I never worked in anything else, I never traveled the world or experienced something, I don't exist, I am invisible and when I try to make myself more visible I get shunned/bullied. This life kills me.
 
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I find the whole idea of wall and foids getting desperate to just be another laundry list in copes. They may lower their chad requirements, but even a single mom on welfare is allowed to have standards we could never dream of.
 
F, can relate to that a lot. My life consists out of studymaxxing and then spending time on the computer. Mainly posting on forums and here. It's unfuckingbelievable. Every second I don't spend on my computer feels wasted. The mental damage after years of rejection and unfulfilled desires is the worst thing; even if I woke up in the body of a chad tomorrow, absolutely nothing would change.

I always tell myself how someone like me could ever raise a child, because I never had a normal childhood due to bullying/etc., if I got a normal-looking or chad son how would I tell him how a heartbreak feels? I even envy the normalfags for all the bad feelings they have in association with relationships (like heartbreak), because everything is better than this total sensory deprivation. I never felt anything, neither good things nor bad things that normies feel, my life experience is literally nothing; I experienced neither the heights (e.g. feeling in love) nor the lows (e.g. a break-up), I never had a healthy relationship with another human being. The only job/hobbies I have are associated with my shitty STEM studies/jobs, I never worked in anything else, I never traveled the world or experienced something, I don't exist, I am invisible and when I try to make myself more visible I get shunned/bullied. This life kills me.
Very well said mate. I hope that in spite of all that, you manage to get some happiness. The good part is that you're a smart STEMcel, that's something you are definitely underestimating. I on the other hand rotted my way through college, picking meme degrees so I wouldn't have to work that much and I could just wallow in depression instead of studying for my future. So take pride in that, that good job and good income will add up and there is the possibility of living a better life mate. Though of course, your pain is real and I'm not sure if it will ever get better, I do hope so.
 
I'm just too burnt out from years and years of conflict that was foisted upon me.

Even if I became a multimillionaire overnight I'd still be fucked.
 
same, im over 30 and been a hikki nobody is gonna settle with me.
Not to mention I don't want to setle, I want to have couple of years relations.
 
same, im over 30 and been a hikki nobody is gonna settle with me.
Not to mention I don't want to setle, I want to have couple of years relations.
Leave your country ASAP if ur a native English speaker u just got ur ticket.
 
blackpill rotted thru my brain
 
Leave your country ASAP if ur a native English speaker u just got ur ticket.
Have you read IM A HIKKIOMORI??????
Cannot go to the supermarket without a panic attack.
I Dont have money.
Boyo gomaxxing is less likeli than finding my perfect waifu in my shitty town
:feelswhat:
 
Have you read IM A HIKKIOMORI??????
Cannot go to the supermarket without a panic attack.
I Dont have money.
Boyo gomaxxing is less likeli than finding my perfect waifu in my shitty town
:feelswhat:
People don't understand that for us even getting out of bed is hard. Anything at all is stressful and a much bigger pain in the ass and drain of energy than it should be.
 
It's a big issue, ending up a friendless shut-in, also being too quiet, lacking experience and other things out of our control, e.g. being born looking as we are and being shunned socially, ridiculed and generally unliked. You can only blame yourself so much, if you've never had much of a chance.
 
There's something deeply revolting and disturbing about having to get with someone who repeatedly fucked up in life, made all the wrong choices, lived like a hedonist and likely actively destroyed their body (obesity, drugs, makeup, smoking, alcohol etc). All the while you've tried desperately to be the best person you could be yet somehow not only are you expected to date that person but society also tells you you'd be lucky to even have that opportunity.

@Lebensmüder @Transcended Trucel
 
There's something deeply revolting and disturbing about having to get with someone who repeatedly fucked up in life, made all the wrong choices, lived like a hedonist and likely actively destroyed their body (obesity, drugs, makeup, smoking, alcohol etc). All the while you've tried desperately to be the best person you could be yet somehow not only are you expected to date that person but society also tells you you'd be lucky to even have that opportunity.

@Lebensmüder @Transcended Trucel
Couldn't have said it better. Also shows how deeply entitled women are, even the worst scum that didn't have the discipline to keep the belly in a concave shape still considers itself a catch and gets away with it. Imagine an ugly, fat, unemployed and drug-addicted male with a huge financial burden on his shoulders that tells a woman that he is a gigachad, people would laugh at him, but when you do it with women with literally the exact same mentality you are suddenly an asshole. It is such a huge fucking toll on my mental health that I know that I worked my entire life, while useless women consider themselves to be above me (and are treated better than me in society).
 
F, can relate to that a lot. My life consists out of studymaxxing and then spending time on the computer. Mainly posting on forums and here. It's unfuckingbelievable. Every second I don't spend on my computer feels wasted. The mental damage after years of rejection and unfulfilled desires is the worst thing; even if I woke up in the body of a chad tomorrow, absolutely nothing would change.

I always tell myself how someone like me could ever raise a child, because I never had a normal childhood due to bullying/etc., if I got a normal-looking or chad son how would I tell him how a heartbreak feels? I even envy the normalfags for all the bad feelings they have in association with relationships (like heartbreak), because everything is better than this total sensory deprivation. I never felt anything, neither good things nor bad things that normies feel, my life experience is literally nothing; I experienced neither the heights (e.g. feeling in love) nor the lows (e.g. a break-up), I never had a healthy relationship with another human being. The only job/hobbies I have are associated with my shitty STEM studies/jobs, I never worked in anything else, I never traveled the world or experienced something, I don't exist, I am invisible and when I try to make myself more visible I get shunned/bullied. This life kills me.
I've never experienced the developmental milestones of a normal human being. Haven't experienced the friendships of childhood and adolescence, haven't had friends stay over, haven't been on vacation, haven't had pets, haven't had many hobbies that weren't free, i know almost nothing about the country i live and its culture, i haven't experienced anything that has to do with dating, sex, love etc.

I'm not a sperg, I'm not socially awkward, I know how to talk so I have no issues interacting on surface level stuff. BUT. All the lack of knowledge that comes from not having lived a proper fulfilling life always ends up showing at some point if i try to go beyond the superficial interactions. I'm like a complete alien if I try to be honest, I have to fake everything, lie, distract and redirect conversations etc to make it seem like i'm living and have lived a normal life
 
Same here. You cannot repair what has been permanently damaged.
 
There's something deeply revolting and disturbing about having to get with someone who repeatedly fucked up in life, made all the wrong choices, lived like a hedonist and likely actively destroyed their body (obesity, drugs, makeup, smoking, alcohol etc). All the while you've tried desperately to be the best person you could be yet somehow not only are you expected to date that person but society also tells you you'd be lucky to even have that opportunity.

@Lebensmüder @Transcended Trucel
Indeed. At this point most of us best off escort maxxing, thirdworld max or cope max. No point in settling for trash who we can't relate with and has no loyalty
 
I find the whole idea of wall and foids getting desperate to just be another laundry list in copes. They may lower their chad requirements, but even a single mom on welfare is allowed to have standards we could never dream of.
 
There's something deeply revolting and disturbing about having to get with someone who repeatedly fucked up in life, made all the wrong choices, lived like a hedonist and likely actively destroyed their body (obesity, drugs, makeup, smoking, alcohol etc). All the while you've tried desperately to be the best person you could be yet somehow not only are you expected to date that person but society also tells you you'd be lucky to even have that opportunity.

@Lebensmüder @Transcended Trucel
That's the deal you get in the west
Blame your goverments
 
I find the whole idea of wall and foids getting desperate to just be another laundry list in copes. They may lower their chad requirements, but even a single mom on welfare is allowed to have standards we could never dream of.
 
Same, buddy, I'm coming up on 43 now, and I haven't found anyone. I'm not sure if it's because I suffer from several mental issues, or if I'm actually so fucking ugly that no woman will take me, but either way it fucking blows. I don't even know what the fuck I'm meant to do anymore
 
Same, buddy, I'm coming up on 43 now, and I haven't found anyone. I'm not sure if it's because I suffer from several mental issues, or if I'm actually so fucking ugly that no woman will take me, but either way it fucking blows. I don't even know what the fuck I'm meant to do anymore
Sorry to hear that mate. Really is a tough world out there for males.
 
Same here. You cannot repair what has been permanently damaged.
Soyciety broke us and they will pay. Its too late. The system is disintegrating and incel demographics are skyrocketing to unsustainable level. Its over for them
 

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