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Why do incels have trouble making friends?

That whale Meghan Trainor said it was all about the bass, well, this is all about the FACE. Weird guys who look OK can usually make friends, so let’s not chalk it up to weirdness. Dumb guys who look OK or good make friends so can’t say it’s low IQ. That just leaves your looks or lack thereof.
 
I have had many friends over the years but never a girlfriend. Must be my personality!
 
Normcucks don’t like ugiies in their friendship groups
The only time I see ugly men with lots of "friends" is if they let themselves be used as footstools, demeaned and if they take all the insults bending over. They're typically booted off if they show any discontent or signs of their own viewpoints.
 
Everybody I meet eventually grows to resent and hate me. I don't blame them but It's not like I deliberately intend to cause this reaction. Quite the opposite. If I knew how to fix myself so this doesn't happen I would but it's not that easy.
 
People have set social circles that are impossible for ugly guys to penetrate. If you don’t have a core group of friends by a certain age, you never will.
This and in my personal case , mogged by males laughed by foids... the same dynamic wherever I know some ppl.
 
I think most people have trouble making friends in 2019, especially men.

hard to make friends when most men are barely able to afford to survive and have no free time to fuck around unless it's LDAR
 
Nobody wants to be around ugly persons.
Failo-effect is real. Ugly people are generally regarded as less trustworthy, less intelligent etc.
And best you can be normies jester, buy never a friend.
•Years of social isolation due to bullying.
•Low SMV(ugly)= less foid interest in their group.
•Not low inhib enough to make clowns of ourselves not high inhib enough to avoid embarrassing them.
•Not paying attention to normie culture/trends.
•We're awkward af and being NT just makes us look like tryhards
 
Because we are ugly.
This op. It's not autism. Autistic people are on youtube and on r/autism talking about their girlfriends and friends. Were just ugly. Even if you make friends and you're ugly(I did) you get treated like shit and it's you constantly defending yourself so you end up wanting to be alone. The guys who sit alone at launch are always genetic dog shit.
 
Long story short: people make fun of your looks so you do your best to avoid any social contact. Eventually you just become a shut-in outcast.

I feel like this is true for most of us
 
i still have my highschool friend and the firned i made during college.

dont need more.

without them id probably be lost.
 
Being an incel isn't just as deep as "I can't get a relationship", it's even more deeper at times

Being a low-status ugly male has very negative effects on one seeing people are more likely to ostracise, bully and neglect you whilst doing as much to not associate with you as possible

This mentally fucks you up in the long term as you become socially inept

Seeing you've experienced so much negative feedback with little/no positive feedback, the result of that experience is low self esteem and mental disorders (depression, social anxiety, etc)

Your mental disorders and people's refusal to associate with you maintains your loneliness and inability to form friendships

Your life feels like a fucking nightmare
 
I have a couple people I'd consider friends but I'm getting more and more distanced from them. Generally, I just don't really talk to people when I'm out of the house unless its a necessity. Years of being treated like trash fucked me up.
 
i’m awkward and don’t really want friends. i already have one and hanging out with him is w/e don’t really need more

Legit same. I've only got 1 friend. We spent heaps of time together when we were both unemployed for a year. 1 month ago he got a job and im still an unemployed NEETcel so we catch up much less now.
 
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the halo effect essentially.

uglyness ruins your perception in the eyes of everyone
 
Because we are ugly and depressed. It's not our fault
 
I always thought it was just me tbh. I have had trouble really holding conversation with anyone really, I usually end up making things into an awkward staring contest.

I think most people have trouble making friends in 2019, especially men.
This might be the case, not sure though because normies seem to always have big social circles.
 
because they are ugly and some are ethnic
 
Male mormies are hipocrytes that would rather suck dick to orbit some slut than acknowledge that 80% are fucked and he is part of this
 
Pick your poison:
•Years of social isolation due to bullying.
•Low SMV(ugly)= less foid interest in their group.
•Not low inhib enough to make clowns of ourselves not high inhib enough to avoid embarrassing them.
•Not paying attention to normie culture/trends.
•We're awkward af and being NT just makes us look like tryhards.
This
 
Because no one wants to be friends with ugly low status males
 
Making friends works kinda like a branch of a tree with its ramifications. You usually get new friends through old ones, and the oldest ones you have usually come from school.

In Brazilian culture, it isn't THAT hard to make new friends from scratch when you're older, but judging from my German experience, it's very tough there, and I suspect it's also like that in most of Europe and in the US.
 
This op. It's not autism. Autistic people are on youtube and on r/autism talking about their girlfriends and friends. Were just ugly. Even if you make friends and you're ugly(I did) you get treated like shit and it's you constantly defending yourself so you end up wanting to be alone. The guys who sit alone at launch are always genetic dog shit.
but then again having autism as incel is definitive end.
 
but then again having autism as incel is definitive end.
Being ugly is a definitive end no matter what. It's honestly better to be autistic because than you can live off of autismbux.
 
Being ugly is a definitive end no matter what. It's honestly better to be autistic because than you can live off of autismbux.
Being ugly and having difficulty with social interaction set you up for a failure. When you have no idea about social know-how, it's much easier to humiliate yourself and when you're ugly ppl won't spare you. Also any form of autism is visible. Ppl know that there something wrong is with you, which additionally singles you out of the crowd.
 
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Because if someone were to assoicate with an ugly person, it would lower their SMV. There is individual SMV and collective SMV of your social circle.
 
people don't wanna be seen with ugly people because that lowers their status
 
Being ugly and having difficulty with social interaction set you up for a failure. When you have no idea about social know-how, it's much easier to humiliate yourself and when you're ugly ppl won't spare you. Also any form of autism is visible. Ppl know that there something wrong is with you, which additionally singles you out of the crowd.
If you're ugly people hate you no matter what. If you have autism then you get to live off of autismbux.
 
This op. It's not autism. Autistic people are on youtube and on r/autism talking about their girlfriends and friends. Were just ugly. Even if you make friends and you're ugly(I did) you get treated like shit and it's you constantly defending yourself so you end up wanting to be alone. The guys who sit alone at launch are always genetic dog shit.
legit...
On top of that they like to blame you for everything
And because you dont really get any positive reinforcement from friends, going out with them ends up being a waste of time and money.
 
Nobody wants a low status male friend, what use is it having a friendless virgin in your group.
 
Many incels are autistic and people with autism have issues socialising. I’m autistic myself.
 

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