Why we should not argue nor polemize

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The women often have many attitudes that harms their relationship with us. Among such attitudes, I can cite the taste for male friendships, the habit of admiring or praising other men, famous or not, etc. When we catch them red-handed, they flatly deny it and say that it was all something innocent and without bad intentions,"without evil".

Because they are based on feelings and not on reason, these ideas and undesirable feminine behaviors remain unscathed after we intellectually destroy their arguments.

In general, women's arguments for attitudes that destroy the relationship are very fragile. However, it is pointless to discuss or polemize because, even after destroyed, their motives prevail for being emotional. They then elaborate other psychological paths to justify their attitudes with excuses, without ever assuming them.

For these reasons, it is a total waste of time to discuss or argue when we catch them in their trickery (the more a man attempts to violate his partner's free will, in the vain attempt to force her to change behavior or admit her mistakes, the more strength he is giving to her. It will open space to be accused of coercion, emotional violence, dictatorship, etc. He will lose his reason and will be seen as a monster by himself, by the smart-ass, and by all the people who are witnessing the conflict. As Esther Vilar (1972) wrote: "the woman has the power that man gives her". For this and other reasons is that giving the woman full freedom is much more convenient from the point of view of emotional defense. The most appropriate strategy is for the man to leave her absolutely free to do as it pleases her, without ever forbidding anything, but returning to her all the consequences and responsibilities that fit her. This requires total dispassion and adaptability or, at least, at higher levels than those of the common man, violent, passionate, and uncontrolled). This habit, which I see in many man, only creates an unpleasant climate in the relationship and leads us to madness, for feminine happiness (in this regard, Goleman tells us that the women become distressed when men close themselves, refusing to participate in their polemics conflicts, and that the same calm down when the men do it. Still according to Goleman, the men close themselves as a mechanism of defense against the emotional flood. When a man closes himself in a situation of conflict, his heartbeats calm down but those of the wife accelerate. When it is open to the discussion, his wife's heartbeat calms down and his accelerates. A oscillatory game is thus formed of transmission of distress from side to side. Therefore, the woman needs the masculine participation in the conflict so that her heart rate does not accelerate. If she feels barred, boycotted by the man who refuses to continue the conflict, she will be flooded with feelings of impotence, frustration, anger, etc). Conclusion: They like to see the circle catch fire and to know that we become mad. Let us refuse them this morbid pleasure).

Instead of arguing, we should take a radical and unexpected atittude that will corner her and leave her disconcerted regarding us. An very disconcerting attitude that works well is to simply accept the contrary and undesirable opinion. The acceptance of certain absurd opinions regarding loyalty, however, is very difficult in certain cases due to the require for total dispassionateness. The experience has shown me that when we seriously encourage the woman who is flirting with another guy to continue, she gets desperate if she is just trying to annoy us. This is a good form of revenge because, most of the time, the other guy does not seriously want her, leaving her at the end alone, with no one, and we can laugh. On the other hand, if the guy really wants her to accept her and she too, this will just mean that you should have treated her as a "bitch" from the beginning and that, if she was considered your girlfriend, the mistake was only yours for not having realized what kind of person you had next to.

This is the least expected attitude of a man and, precisely because of this, the most disconcerting. In general, what is expected is that in such situations we protest and fall into emotional disorders of various kinds. If on the contrary, we encourage them to carry on the absurd fantasy, they will be emotionally trapped (all forms of psychological cornering described in this work have the effect of only leading the woman with ambiguous behavior to reveal what she truly feels for us and her real intentions, being totally ineffective as a form of manipulation for the satisfaction of man's personal desires. Those who try to use them for this excuse purpose, will suffer the consequences of the shot that will backfire and then will fall into ridiculous situations. They will be hooked by their own hook and will drink without knowing the poison they distilled. Since it is a question of counter-manipulation (disarticulation of manipulative gimmicks) and not of manipulation, its effectiveness is verified only in cases of legitimate emotional defense, in which reason is on our side. In other cases it is ineffective, since the woman is more skilled in the manipulation of feelings than the man. To try to overcome the woman in the manipulative tricks of love is almost the same as demanding that they surpass us in physical force, that is, an absurdity).

However, in order for us not be predictable, it is convenient to once in a while go to the opposite extreme, ruthlessly exposing their disguises (without discussing but only making secure observations, clear, direct and closed) without the slightest fear of losing her and without hesitation. In order to the exposure attain the feeling and get the desired effect, the words must be of very easily comprehension, appropriate to the low rational intelligence (for discernment disappears in moments of flooding by negative emotions. This applies to both sexes. To try to dialogue rationally with a person who is possessed by negative feelings is to ask for waste time), and at the same time absolutely accurate, to promote accurate cornering. Be prepared because, in these cases, the feminine reactions are often violent and you will need to be prescient to hold down the fort of a female in a frenzy of madness for having been unmasked by force and feel suddenly naked. But soon it will pass if you are the strongest and coolest of the two and remain centered. Do not fear fuss, screams or cry. Do not be affected by words. Stay firm and resolute in your position. The flow of energy that you have shooted will soon run out.

In relation to the attitudes and excuses of your companion that cast doubt on the faithfulness, do not waste time arguing but just communicate, without fear, what those acts mean to you and the consequences they will have. Do not try to negotiate or make her understand your point of view because it will be useless and you will be considered weak and insecure about your own life goals. In general, you can give a second chance as long as the failure has not been serious.

In matters of behaviors that undermine the belief in fidelity, a very common mistake is to insist that our loved ones recognize their wrong attitudes. We do so with the vain hope that they may understand our noble motives, hoping that our point of view will be considered. This has the opposite effect and makes us seen as weak rather than democratic. On the other hand, we are seen as strong and decisive when we corner them by unilaterally communicating what we perceive and the attitudes that we will take as a result, refusing us to discuss. However, if you bluff, promising a "punishment" ("punishment" is understood as the rupture of the relationship or, at least, of the commitment of fidelity on the part of man) without fulfilling it, you will be lost. Promise only what you can do.

What matters is closing all the exits. The door to stubbornness and resist is open when we discuss. Disable the stubbornness by giving free course to opinions that are contrary to your own. Consider the mistaken opinions of others as a problem that is not yours (according to Freire, the mature man accepts opinions contrary to his own and does not try to violate the point of view of others; the ability to accept divergence corresponds to the fourth stage of the maturation of consciousness), but rather of the person who emits and defends them (and the consequences as well).

Obviously, you should not try to do this if you are in love or will fall headlong into the cliff. The man in love is in a servile and miserable state, being unable to master the relationship. This is why women insistently induce us to surrender (to tell them how we feel, how much we love them, etc).

Do not try to force it to be coherent, sensible or logical. Accept it as it is, understand it and adapt yourself. Have no shape, kill your egos. Watch it and take things as they are, without the desire that they should be different.

Our lovely companions are naturally conditioned to the concealment and that is why sometimes they look so fake (I return thus the provocations of the authors who qualify the masculine gender as inherently a liar). They get along very well in functions that require the ability to hide, to disguise. They need to feel that they are cheating and when they can not hide anything whatsoever, they become sad and depressed, feeling incompetent (although they are not always aware of this. This anguish gestate in deep levels of the psyche and becomes visible in the form of feelings of vulnerability. It seems to me that the act of hiding gives them a sense of security, as if they were sheltered by something they fear. The most probable thing is that this fear of the masculine is the fear of the paternal figure pointed out so often by Freud in his works). But so it must be, do not revolt. We have to adapt to their ambiguous languages, learning to guide us amid the chaos they create, instead of fighting, arguing and polemizing.

The time and effort spent on discussions is lost because we cannot attain them before the facts. We only attain them in actual events in progress and never with warnings, alerts, pleadings etc. There is no emotional impacts (these impacts should not be understood as damages and not less as aggressions but as sensibilizations that mobilize feelings) a priori but only a posteriori.

The only case in which the discussion can be considered useful is when taken as an opportunity for our psychological training. We can develop resistance if we gradually expose ourselves to the deleterious hypnotic influences of the formidable and fatal feminine magnetism. In a discussion (although it is common to say the opposite, I believe that this is almost universal. The discussions obscure the understanding, be it rational or emotional), the battle does not take place on the rational plane as it seems in first glance, but in the emotional plane. Be much colder, more incisive, more direct, more aggressive (within the limits of good manners and civility, obviously. Do not go back to the paleolithic), shorter and thicker than your contender to exercise dominion (I refer to the domain of the situation and not the mind or body of others) or you will be the dominated one. Do not argue: communicate running over her, trampling and crushing all fascinating influence (in other words: whip yourself with the whip of the will to tame the inner animal and avoid possession by negative feelings and thoughts. Nietzsche is to be read in detail). Look her in the eye. At the same time, be kind and accept it as it is, leaving her free to think and do what her want.

To disable the mental hells of stubbornness and controversy it is necessary to not force your partner's opinions. Absolutely respect her opinions, world views, conceptions, etc, even when they are wrong, false, malicious, absurd, selfish and completely harmful to the relationship. However, communicate with them in a lovely way, politely, what you see about them and the consequences they will have. Never try to force her to admit errors or to confess explicitly, verbally, anything whatsoever. The recognition of mistakes and acceptance of responsibilities are achieved by leaving them as they are and returning it the consequences (that way, in some cases, they become aware of the negative characteristics. I have noticed that some even change their attitude on their own free will, after the effects of their inconsequential actions return upon themselves. Becoming aware of one's own mistakes is something very individual and no one can compel the next to do so. In fact, this is the central pillar of my theory: absolute adaptive acceptance. We can do nothing but let them do everything they want out of their lives (but not ours, obviously) and expect them to savor the good and bad consequences of the paths they choose. Let us not deceive ourselves: they will not return home, nor will they ever feel proud to have their domestic services recognized and remunerated by their husbands. Nor will they be proud of their traditional and distinctive feminine characteristics: skirts, dresses, delicacy, beauty, softness, superior emotions, etc. The tendency toward tomorrow is for them to become more and more like men, and therefore more and more uninteresting. The future is bleak. I hope I am wrong). We return the responsibility and consequences simply by not assuming them, not taking them for us. Always reinforce that her views will be respected. The emotional realities of the husband and wife are distinct and parallel, which is why it is a waste of time trying to force them to understand our point of view and even less, try to force them to assimilate our worldview and our idiosyncrasy.

The secret here consists in not opposing ourselves, that is, in joining the continuous movements, accompanying fluctuations, oscillations and alternations. Therefore, we must not identify with the relationship, separating ourselves and seeing the events from the outside, as a spectator unaware of the facts and who does not consider them his. In other words, we have to conquer an internal state in which opinions and the partner's attitudes are no longer considered to be our problem but only of hers, discharging us of any responsibilities in respect, since it is not of our concern because it does not belong to us. Both the companion and the relation must be taken as strange beings (that is, beings who are not known and that need to be observe, know and understood).

Learning to separate dialogue for emotional storms is not easy. The fatal magnetism usually drags us into fights and disagreements (what Goleman calls "floods of feelings"). It is necessary to resist the charms and spells, the provocations of all natures, both good and bad, keeping the lucidity and calm in moments that will be lacking to the other party: being superior in understanding, patience, coolness and kindness, conditions only conquered by those who have dissolved their egos.

Learn to control your mind to keep it quiet at the worst emotional hells. Support torture and confusions in silence, such as Buddha. Resist all your partner's provocations in the sense to induce you to a controversy. Be distant and mysterious. Talk as little as possible. Tie your tongue even though inside you are about to snap. The silence of the man who disappears within himself bothers them very much, being a great defense against the aggressions because it hits them in the right way. The act of closing ourselves, refusing to argue, destabilizes and disorients them emotionally.

The more we talk, the worse it will be. The more we expose our points of view, the more we are feeding the conflicts. You'd better hear it and do only short, successful and destructive interventions (I am referring to the destruction of a few mistakes and errors that can be elucidated in these difficult times), because, as we read, Solomon wrote:

A foolish woman [and thus, not the lucid] is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing (Proverbs 9:13)

If you want to make it everything worse and create a formidable hell, just discuss the relationship, try to agree on divergences, etc.
 
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I'm not sorry you got no replies. Holy shit that's an awful lot of text.
 
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Imagine using logic and reason to argue against somebody using emotion and expecting to win.

 
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or just give her a good beating until she learns to stop her malicious behavior.
 
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or just give her a good beating until she learns to stop her malicious behavior.
If you physically assault her, you will have to deal with the police or her relatives, besides giving her reason. Therefore, there is no way out but to arm and retaliate emotionally with justice and self-defense.
 
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If you physically assault her, you will have to deal with the police or her relatives, besides giving her reason. Therefore, there is no way out but to arm and retaliate emotionally with justice and self-defense.
bullshit. how do you think gangs and clans keep themselves afloat parallely to law enforcement? or prostitution rings and all that shit? if you have leverage of some sort nobody else will get involved.

you have these hierarchical parasitic relationships everywhere, not just between foids as parasites and males as the host. a good portion of 'normies' are in trapped relationships with others that they can't free themselves from even if they wanted.

we have so many clans in Europe that the police knows about and the police will still not do anything about them. they have fucking funerals for clan members here and the police just makes sure to pay tribute to them like the cucks they are. none of them step in to arrest any of these persons.
 
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If there is a rule against low effort """''spam"""" there needs to be a rule against making over 90000 word posts