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Genetic Error

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How to live a good life without family, friends, gf?

I will never have any of thoese things so can someone help me figure out how to live a good lief without them

things i can think of:

- join a boxing gym so some sort of brotherhood and purpose

- convert to islam and go to mosque so maybe can feel some sort of belonging? will that even work?

- regularly have escorts and maybe have one that i see regularly and keep paying for sex/cuddle just so i can feel nice for a bit even if its fake

- play video games multiplayer ones and get a team so can feel some sort of brotherhood friendship

- have a dog to walk every morning and night and also its someone to take care of and maybe cuddle with sometimes

- work keep me busy in the rest of my time


could u still live a happy life like this? is there anything else i can do?
 
Dog
 
Religion has been humanity's most effective cope for several thousand years.
 
Man said:
Religion has been humanity's most effective cope for several thousand years.
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agreed

do u think theyd let a turbomanlet white subhuman be welcome in a mosque or would they just not like me
 
Genetic Error said:
How to live a good life without family, friends, gf?

I will never have any of thoese things so can someone help me figure out how to live a good lief without them

things i can think of:

- join a boxing gym so some sort of brotherhood and purpose

- convert to islam and go to mosque so maybe can feel some sort of belonging? will that even work?

- regularly have escorts and maybe have one that i see regularly and keep paying for sex/cuddle just so i can feel nice for a bit even if its fake

- play video games multiplayer ones and get a team so can feel some sort of brotherhood friendship

- have a dog to walk every morning and night and also its someone to take care of and maybe cuddle with sometimes

- work keep me busy in the rest of my time


could u still live a happy life like this? is there anything else i can do?
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yeah then rope
 
Genetic Error said:
things i can think of:

- join a boxing gym so some sort of brotherhood and purpose

- convert to islam and go to mosque so maybe can feel some sort of belonging? will that even work?

- regularly have escorts and maybe have one that i see regularly and keep paying for sex/cuddle just so i can feel nice for a bit even if its fake

- play video games multiplayer ones and get a team so can feel some sort of brotherhood friendship

- have a dog to walk every morning and night and also its someone to take care of and maybe cuddle with sometimes

- work keep me busy in the rest of my time


could u still live a happy life like this? is there anything else i can do?
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Your own words show that you aren't cut out for "being a loner" because by your own words your perception of a "good life" is one that revolves around other people, socializing, and emotional connections.

The question isn't "how to live a good life", the question is "what is your version of a good life".

For me my version of a good life is one in which I don't have to socializing, I spend all of my time alone relaxing or entertaining myself, I spend most of my free time traveling and enjoying the local cuisine (both food and women :feelshmm:), etc.

One can have a "good life" without family, friends, gf, etc, but only if they are an introvert to begin with, and I don't mean the modern day fake "I'm so quirky" type of introvert we see all over social media.


The term "introvert" has been co-opted by people today who just want to feel special and "be quirky", when they are as normie as they come and there isn't anything really introverted about them at all. These same "introverts" were having a mental breakdown during the COVID 19, but for actual introverts (like myself) it was literally as if nothing had changed.

The question a lot of people need to ask themselves is - "Am I really an introvert, or am I just an extrovert loser who doesn't have the option to socialize?". A lot of people tell themselves they're introverts when they're really just extrovert losers.

The question to ask yourself is - "If I was popular and had a lot of money, would I be living my life as I do now?".

If the answer is no then you aren't an introvert, you're just a failure at what you really want to be.

If I magically became popular with women and got rich, my plans would not change. I'm still never getting married, never having children, don't want any friends, prefer to be by myself, etc. Nothing would change regardless of whether or not I magically woke up to be a Chad.

TBH as much as you guys obsess about something like that I'd prefer if that never happened, I don't want to be Chad, I've gotten so accustomed to being the me I am now.


TLDR - You're fucked, because all of the things that you value as "good" in life revolve around the things that are hardest for you to get as an incel. You're completely dependent on validation from other humans in order to be "happy". Whereas for men like me everything we value can be bought, so our only requirement is to have enough money.
 
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You don’t I’m afraid, you cope for as long as possible till you end up roping. Hopefully you have an abundance of copes so you don’t have to do the latter.
 
BlkPillPres said:
For me my version of a good life is one in which I don't have to socializing, I spend all of my time alone relaxing or entertaining myself, I spend most of my free time traveling and enjoying the local cuisine (both food and women :feelshmm:), etc.
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so your ideal life would be

working, travelling, eating nice food, escorts

thats it?
 
Genetic Error said:
working, travelling, eating nice food, escorts

thats it?
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No my ideal life would be NOT working (being wealthy - having multiple passive income streams) and then spending ALL of my free time traveling, eating nice food, fucking beautiful women, enjoying my hobbies, etc.

That's it. I couldn't ask for more.

For me socializing has always been this annoying thing that I had to learn to do in order to fit in, because I DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE. You need to be able to socialize in order to "move up in the world". That's how I was able to negotiate promotions and pay raises for myself.

But my "dream life" would be one in which I have enough passive income that I don't have to socialize at all.
 
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you go ER
 
Get a pet, do a knife rampage on GTA 5 or just çonsider roping after running out of options.
 
Getting pets worked for me
 
Genetic Error said:
agreed

do u think theyd let a turbomanlet white subhuman be welcome in a mosque or would they just not like me
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nobody would judge you, the mosque is a place to worship God. Not a place of facial judgement.
 
As a person who has done all those things you listed, i'm going to be honest and say there's no compensating for a lack of deep social connections which you will likely never find outside a committed relationship with a good trad wife who is the only lifelong supportive companion you would need.

Brotherhoods are a farce, i did boxing for 5 years and never made a true reliable friend. Everyone just trains, talks a bit and goes home to their family and wife.

If you want to be happy as a loner then get a sex doll, VR headset and AI companion program. Getting a dog is also good as it will help you go outside and refresh your mind every now and then.
 
BlkPillPres said:
No my ideal life would be NOT working (being wealthy - having multiple passive income streams) and then spending ALL of my free time traveling, eating nice food, fucking beautiful women, enjoying my hobbies, etc.

That's it. I couldn't ask for more.

For me socializing has always been this annoying thing that I had to learn to do in order to fit in, because I DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE. You need to be able to socialize in order to "move up in the world". That's how I was able to negotiate promotions and pay raises for myself.

But my "dream life" would be one in which I have enough passive income that I don't have to socialize at all.
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would you not ever feel lonely if not part of any brotherhood, team, friendships, family, friend?
 
Genetic Error said:
would you not ever feel lonely if not part of any brotherhood, team, friendships, family, friend?
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No. I don't even understand why people mean when they say "lonely". I've only ever been alone and I enjoy being alone more than when I'm around other people. My mind is calm and relaxed when I'm alone, when I'm around others I'm self conscious and thinking about so many different things, because you can't say "the wrong thing" or do "the wrong thing" without someone noticing and then trying to make a fool out of you.

Being around normies is an endless competition, you are constantly being judged and people are looking for the slightest chance to ridicule you or throw you under the bus, that goes double for the work environment, especially when people see you getting promoted.

When I go out to a nice place to eat by myself there's no pressure, there's no worry, there's no competition, it's just me enjoying myself (and yes I do mean this even if other people are eating at that place, it's very easy to "zone out" and forget about the people around you and just relax). But the moment you go out with "friends" or "family" you are now playing "the game" whether you want to or not. You are being judged based on the clothes you wear, what you order to eat, how you eat the food, your conversational skills during the meal, you will be quizzed about your non-existent social life, if it's a friend group and not family you will be quizzed about your non-existent sex life, etc, etc.

I don't think you've really thought this through. Are you sure you want "friendships" or a "brotherhood"?.

Or maybe you want a group of fellow losers to hang around, because if you ever get normie friends you will always be the third wheel, you will always be the butt of every joke, your only purpose in the group will be to function as comedic relief and a free ego boost for everyone there.

You see socializing doesn't cure the ills of being an incel, it will only amplify it. You seem to think have a social life is some kind of "cure all" for your depression or whatever you hate about your life, but you are completely wrong. Those problems will remain and being social will throw those problems in your face day after day, and the people who you call your "friends" and "family" will throw it in your face too.

I'm not working and wealthmaxxing and doing all of the shit I do just to live a life where I get pestered like that, I'm doing all of this work so that I have freedom and peace of mind.

Socializing is a like a game being played but it seems like a lot of you don't realize you're playing. Just taking part means you are playing the game, you don't get to choose how to play, the rules are set up in advance, you either play by normie rules or you lose.
 
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BlkPillPres said:
Your own words show that you aren't cut out for "being a loner" because by your own words your perception of a "good life" is one that revolves around other people, socializing, and emotional connections.

The question isn't "how to live a good life", the question is "what is your version of a good life".

For me my version of a good life is one in which I don't have to socializing, I spend all of my time alone relaxing or entertaining myself, I spend most of my free time traveling and enjoying the local cuisine (both food and women :feelshmm:), etc.

One can have a "good life" without family, friends, gf, etc, but only if they are an introvert to begin with, and I don't mean the modern day fake "I'm so quirky" type of introvert we see all over social media.


The term "introvert" has been co-opted by people today who just want to feel special and "be quirky", when they are as normie as they come and there isn't anything really introverted about them at all. These same "introverts" were having a mental breakdown during the COVID 19, but for actual introverts (like myself) it was literally as if nothing had changed.

The question a lot of people need to ask themselves is - "Am I really an introvert, or am I just an extrovert loser who doesn't have the option to socialize?". A lot of people tell themselves they're introverts when they're really just extrovert losers.

The question to ask yourself is - "If I was popular and had a lot of money, would I be living my life as I do now?".

If the answer is no then you aren't an introvert, you're just a failure at what you really want to be.

If I magically became popular with women and got rich, my plans would not change. I'm still never getting married, never having children, don't want any friends, prefer to be by myself, etc. Nothing would change regardless of whether or not I magically woke up to be a Chad.

TBH as much as you guys obsess about something like that I'd prefer if that never happened, I don't want to be Chad, I've gotten so accustomed to being the me I am now.


TLDR - You're fucked, because all of the things that you value as "good" in life revolve around the things that are hardest for you to get as an incel. You're completely dependent on validation from other humans in order to be "happy". Whereas for men like me everything we value can be bought, so our only requirement is to have enough money.
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great post
 
You don't have any acquaintances? No one to call? Birth family all dead?
 
AutEPcel said:
You don't have any acquaintances? No one to call? Birth family all dead?
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no acquantances, no one to call

birth family all hates me/wont reply to text
 
BlkPillPres said:
For me my version of a good life is one in which I don't have to socializing, I spend all of my time alone relaxing or entertaining myself, I spend most of my free time traveling and enjoying the local cuisine (both food and women :feelshmm:), etc.
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Agreed, except for women.
 
Genetic Error said:
How to live a good life without family, friends, gf?

I will never have any of thoese things so can someone help me figure out how to live a good lief without them

things i can think of:

- join a boxing gym so some sort of brotherhood and purpose

- convert to islam and go to mosque so maybe can feel some sort of belonging? will that even work?

- regularly have escorts and maybe have one that i see regularly and keep paying for sex/cuddle just so i can feel nice for a bit even if its fake

- play video games multiplayer ones and get a team so can feel some sort of brotherhood friendship

- have a dog to walk every morning and night and also its someone to take care of and maybe cuddle with sometimes

- work keep me busy in the rest of my time


could u still live a happy life like this? is there anything else i can do?
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Convert to Islam. It saved me. I wasn't Muslim once.
 
Very easy, you can't beacuse it's impossible. All the other things are just some lame coping strategies. You live very bad without this things
 
Genetic Error said:
Genetic Error said:
- regularly have escorts and maybe have one that i see regularly and keep paying for sex/cuddle just so i can feel nice for a bit even if its fake
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Genetic Error said:
agreed

do u think theyd let a turbomanlet white subhuman be welcome in a mosque or would they just not like me
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Big religions don't care about individuals, join a smaller Protestant church. But i can't promise you that it will help you with inceldom.
 
cant. We have biological primal needs. You can live myb without family or friends but you defo need romanti/sxual partner. As long as you dont feel lonely. All copes eventually run out if you dont have your primary biological needs satisfied. Fight your biology and you always lose
 
Ecclesiastes says to enjoy the simple things in life. Like working and enjoying the fruits of your labor
 
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