Deleted member 7448
Name is Abdu, live in Laos, born on 24.08.1992.
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Having a girlfriend would rip me out of my comfort zone and my life would consist of doing a lot of things that I'd rather not be doing. I've been extremely avoidant of people my whole life and I don't like being around them very much, also I have many issues such as trust issues and anxiety. I've spent my whole life alone and in front of a computer, I avoided any other activity, so having to change my life completely would be hell.
Even just the dating and "honeymoon" phase, which are supposed to be the most pleasant, would be uncomfortable. Even if I shoved aside my anxiety, I've spent all my free time in this life in front of a computer. Doing anything else is not only boring to me, but actively unpleasant.
And then if somehow it got more serious, life gets even worse. Chores, nagging etc... your life changes completely. You totally lose your freedom. And it drains your energy and your time. I am always tired and lacking energy for the most basic of things, much else all this relationship crap on top of that. Ohh and of course I'd have to have a job at that point too.
I don't think I could do it tbh. It's giving up my comfort, my life. Life is already incredibly hard, and when wageslaving will be added on top of the shit pile that is my life, I don't think I could take the shit of a relationship on top of it.
There's a reason why I don't give up my current routine. As much as I am unsatisfied with my life, it's much better than any other alternative. I choose to live the way I do, it's the most comfortable and pleasant situation I could create for myself. A woman would change it completely. And for what? Sex and a degree of affection?
If we were talking about some fantastical love story in which we're both consumed by love and that love feels like a drug then sure, it would be worth it. But that's really fucking impossible, even if it does happen to some people, it wouldn't happen for me. Realistically at best I'd be looking at some average hag who couldn't do better and needs to settle down and we both sort of settle for each other and put up with each other as best as we can. And even that's unlikely.
Hmm, why am I on an incel forum then? I clearly don't want a woman. And yet there are times when I really want one. Maybe I'm low T or something.
Even just the dating and "honeymoon" phase, which are supposed to be the most pleasant, would be uncomfortable. Even if I shoved aside my anxiety, I've spent all my free time in this life in front of a computer. Doing anything else is not only boring to me, but actively unpleasant.
And then if somehow it got more serious, life gets even worse. Chores, nagging etc... your life changes completely. You totally lose your freedom. And it drains your energy and your time. I am always tired and lacking energy for the most basic of things, much else all this relationship crap on top of that. Ohh and of course I'd have to have a job at that point too.
I don't think I could do it tbh. It's giving up my comfort, my life. Life is already incredibly hard, and when wageslaving will be added on top of the shit pile that is my life, I don't think I could take the shit of a relationship on top of it.
There's a reason why I don't give up my current routine. As much as I am unsatisfied with my life, it's much better than any other alternative. I choose to live the way I do, it's the most comfortable and pleasant situation I could create for myself. A woman would change it completely. And for what? Sex and a degree of affection?
If we were talking about some fantastical love story in which we're both consumed by love and that love feels like a drug then sure, it would be worth it. But that's really fucking impossible, even if it does happen to some people, it wouldn't happen for me. Realistically at best I'd be looking at some average hag who couldn't do better and needs to settle down and we both sort of settle for each other and put up with each other as best as we can. And even that's unlikely.
Hmm, why am I on an incel forum then? I clearly don't want a woman. And yet there are times when I really want one. Maybe I'm low T or something.