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You see, the most annoying thing about this bullshit isn't the loaded assumptions or the condescension. It's the facetious virtue-signalling.
It's this:
Just a quick straw poll here, um, do answer: how many of you feel human? Or more specifically, how many of you feel like you are treated like a human being?
No? Of course not.
Let's not kid ourselves.
Lookism is THE most pervasive yet most frequently denied prejudice there is. Not that lookism exists independent of other prejudices; to some extent, attractiveness is inexplicably tied to race, gender, and social class. There is most definitely a penalty against individuals who look homely or plain, as opposed to those who are, say, visually striking. There is a certain set of genetic traits that society holds as an ideal, and the farther you fall short of that ideal, the more inviting you are as a target for ridicule.
You and I have endured, day after day, week after week, year after year of being told that we simply don't measure up to other human beings. Sometimes it comes in the form of explicit abuse. Sometimes it comes in the form of subliminal cultural messaging. At the end of the day, the result is identical: you and I are demoralized, dejected, despondent.
Whether you're a seasoned incels.co member or just a lurking teenager questioning his place in the genetic hierarchy, know this: If you were and are treated differently than other human beings in the classroom, in the workplace, in a bar or restaurant or shopping mall or anywhere else, because of your height, build, facial asymmetry, bone structure, ethnicity, or national origin, you are not at fault.
Now, out of fairness, I will say this Redditor's advice is not entirely incorrect. Being in a romantic relationship is not a panacea for all the emotional difficulties that you may currently be experiencing.
But the remainder of this advice is despicable. It is manipulative. He or she is transferring blame to you; blame that you don't deserve. This person is telling you that all of this -- your involuntary celibacy -- is simply a matter of "confidence, sweaty".
: It is absolutely YOUR fault that you are not "loving yourself". It is absolutely YOUR fault for not believing that you have inherent worth, despite a lifetime of being told that you are worthless. You shouldn't acknowledge that lookism exists, inside and outside of dating. And if you are a man, you should under no circumstances ever be allowed to express any semblance of human emotion.Everything is fine.
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