You do realise that is part of the reason they send it, eh? They send millions of love letters to Anders Breivik, to Madsen, to Fitz, to every damn serial killer there is, even when they are ugly, how do you explain that?
And no, you are compeltely wrong, studies upon studies upon studies clearly show how behaviour is of importance, especially low inhibition, extreme self assuredness, violent tendencies, big ego, bascily everything that incels lack.
You are dead wrong on this one and I have science aswell as experience on my side.