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Shovan Chowdhury
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Self-regulated, life-long learner in psychologyAug 22
I'm 32. Currently jobless, single, no kids, no career, no degree, and depressed. Why do I feel like I totally failed in life and that there's no hope for me?
I am 33, single, no kids, no career, no property and struggling as an immigrant in canada with huge pressure and uncertainities.
It’s true that sometimes I feel like totally failed in life and there’s no hope for me. But I know the root cause of this disappointment and negative thinking.
That's why I am trying to figure out the pattern of my thinking. Society always compels us to think that you are incomplete & unsuccessful if you are not married or involved in relationship or having no kids, no good career, huge houses, luxury cars, fame, recognition, six digit income or more.
But the reality is that you can be extremely happy without those materialistic things. Take one step back from your current situation and accept that if I don't get anything from life, still I will be happy.
I am not ignoring the power of money, good career as well as the goal of life. I have applied hundreds and hundreds compnaies as a skilled HR professional because my education and 7 years work experience is related with HR but most canadian employers rejected me because I don't have enough canadian HR work experiences.
I work part time at Walmart as a survival job to sustain my livelihood. During my free time, I work voluntarily in Regina Food Bank to help people. Moreover, I have already done tons of linkedin learning courses. Besides, I am planning to start HR related certification to upgrade my skill.
Here I have no friends whom I can share and vent out my frustrations. So, I am the only soulmate of myself and give motivation to myself "Shovan, I love you despite having lots of limitations and failures. Focus on positive things and remember You have the power to overcome all the hurdles"
So, I suggest you to reduce the expecation level, take a break, evaluate the whole situation, being grateful whatever you have, meditate regularly, upgrade your skill, enroll some courses and do voluntary works to improve your confidence level.
Before anything less, tell yourself everyday that " I don't need relationship, good career, achivement and success to be happy and complete. I am already bleesed, successful and happy in my own way." That's what I am telling to myself everyday.