You win when you become flippant towards everything.
There's this study saying men cry an average of 5-10 times a year and women cry 30-60 times a year. Women in developed countries cry more which is interesting and makes a lot of sense.
If you haven't cried at all in multiple years like I have you have escaped the matrix. Instead just lol at people and treat everything like a joke, block out any possible remorse for any of your actions with the realisation that it will just be exploited by others who'd do the same shit to you anyway, and instead of getting sad like a woman just objectively recognise how hopeless everything is in a really clinical flat matter when it washes over you. Makes ur quality of life much better.
Even ancient gayreeks figured out you couldn't control the phenomena coming in but you could absolutely control the responses.