Let's say that a woman has 2 options of men to interact with:
- A polite, compassionate guy who is either decent looking or below. Has a charming personality, listens to your problems, takes care of himself, is funny and an overall fun guy to be around.
- A hot guy with violent tendencies, his personality consists of his gigantic ego, smoking/drinking habits and a terrible academic situation.
Consider the following scenario, which is a relatively common trope in real life:
The woman chooses the first guy as a friend. She opens up to him, tells him about her problems, he is her shoulder to cry on. She may also even spend time with him, talking, laughing, joking, studying, whatever. But It's ONLY platonic, never anything sexual. She enjoys his company and wishes more guys would be like him personality-wise.
Regarding the second guy, she chooses him for the SEXUAL side of things. She doesn't open up to him the way she does to the first, she barely considers him a friend. She also wants to be his "savior", but she is more interested in him fucking her brains out because he looks good. She doesn't spend nearly as much time interacting with this guy compared to the first one, though.
Now I'll ask both the lurkers and the members here: Which one do you think feels more validated? Which one's behavior do you think will be closely followed/emulated by a (vast) number of men, in order to achieve what they want? Considering most men's self-esteem is at least 50% rooted in the perception women have of them and what they can get from women, which one do you think will become the "general" man?
Exactly, you guessed it. The one who gets more sex. SEX is the grand reward any woman could have for a man. Not her "personality", not her time, not her emotional baggage, no no. It's sex, always has been. Guys try to emulate behavior that gets them SEX, not a ride in the friendzone. They look around and they see thugs, bad-boys, druggies, alcoholics and other such scum of the earth that keeps getting handed this thing and they wonder "Man, why don't I just start acting like these guys? I'll drastically increase my chances to get what I want". They don't see men with genuine personalities getting women, they don't see funny men getting women, they ESPECIALLY don't see mature, emotionally stable men getting relationships (as they are just getting used for emotional help, safely kept in the friendzone).
It's always the HOT, UNSTABLE men that do best with women. The physically attractive, mentally torn apart Chads. Because not only do they trigger the main character syndrome most women have dormant within, pushing them to want to be the chads' "heroes", but they are physically attractive, triggering biological, primal, instinctual attraction.
A lot of men notice this and adapt. They don't want to be the bottom of the barel, not getting any sex or attention of that kind from women. Most could honestly care less about women's "personalities", it's sex the man is chasing most of the time . So they emulate. They try to mimic those behaviors, in an attempt to gain the validation of women and more consistent sexual access to them. It's why a lot of men start acting "mean", or "evil", or "suddenly change" at some point.
TL DR: Give sex to people with the right behavior and its the right behavior you're going to see more often. Peace.
- A polite, compassionate guy who is either decent looking or below. Has a charming personality, listens to your problems, takes care of himself, is funny and an overall fun guy to be around.
- A hot guy with violent tendencies, his personality consists of his gigantic ego, smoking/drinking habits and a terrible academic situation.
Consider the following scenario, which is a relatively common trope in real life:
The woman chooses the first guy as a friend. She opens up to him, tells him about her problems, he is her shoulder to cry on. She may also even spend time with him, talking, laughing, joking, studying, whatever. But It's ONLY platonic, never anything sexual. She enjoys his company and wishes more guys would be like him personality-wise.
Regarding the second guy, she chooses him for the SEXUAL side of things. She doesn't open up to him the way she does to the first, she barely considers him a friend. She also wants to be his "savior", but she is more interested in him fucking her brains out because he looks good. She doesn't spend nearly as much time interacting with this guy compared to the first one, though.
Now I'll ask both the lurkers and the members here: Which one do you think feels more validated? Which one's behavior do you think will be closely followed/emulated by a (vast) number of men, in order to achieve what they want? Considering most men's self-esteem is at least 50% rooted in the perception women have of them and what they can get from women, which one do you think will become the "general" man?
Exactly, you guessed it. The one who gets more sex. SEX is the grand reward any woman could have for a man. Not her "personality", not her time, not her emotional baggage, no no. It's sex, always has been. Guys try to emulate behavior that gets them SEX, not a ride in the friendzone. They look around and they see thugs, bad-boys, druggies, alcoholics and other such scum of the earth that keeps getting handed this thing and they wonder "Man, why don't I just start acting like these guys? I'll drastically increase my chances to get what I want". They don't see men with genuine personalities getting women, they don't see funny men getting women, they ESPECIALLY don't see mature, emotionally stable men getting relationships (as they are just getting used for emotional help, safely kept in the friendzone).
It's always the HOT, UNSTABLE men that do best with women. The physically attractive, mentally torn apart Chads. Because not only do they trigger the main character syndrome most women have dormant within, pushing them to want to be the chads' "heroes", but they are physically attractive, triggering biological, primal, instinctual attraction.
A lot of men notice this and adapt. They don't want to be the bottom of the barel, not getting any sex or attention of that kind from women. Most could honestly care less about women's "personalities", it's sex the man is chasing most of the time . So they emulate. They try to mimic those behaviors, in an attempt to gain the validation of women and more consistent sexual access to them. It's why a lot of men start acting "mean", or "evil", or "suddenly change" at some point.
TL DR: Give sex to people with the right behavior and its the right behavior you're going to see more often. Peace.
