Women are quick to chastise and shame us if we call them out on their BS or gaslighting; if we point out how the "friendship" is based on pity or convenience. I know from personal experience (see one of my earlier posts, "The Best Friend that Wasn't"). So it may be hard to tell which female friends, if any, are genuine (I know what the comments will be to that).
Here's what you do:
If you have female friends in social media, IRL, etc, just stop talking to them. It's that simple. Either delete your social media, or just let it gather dust. Don't email or call them, especially on special occasions. Don't do or say anything hostile, just forget they exist.
One of two results: if they are your friend, they'll become curious or worried. They'll make the effort to contact you.
Or, if they didn't really like you, they'll probably be relieved, and you will never hear from them again.
And that, my friends, is how you'll discover which friends are real and which ones only feel some sort of pity-fueled obligation to deal with you. It may be painful in the short term, esp if you're young, to cut ties with someone you feel is special, but I can tell you from life experience it will be FAR better in the long run.
One final note for any lurkers from IT that may say, "She might just assume you need space or are busy": Yeah, to an extent. But after some time has passed it will become obvious.
Here's what you do:
If you have female friends in social media, IRL, etc, just stop talking to them. It's that simple. Either delete your social media, or just let it gather dust. Don't email or call them, especially on special occasions. Don't do or say anything hostile, just forget they exist.
One of two results: if they are your friend, they'll become curious or worried. They'll make the effort to contact you.
Or, if they didn't really like you, they'll probably be relieved, and you will never hear from them again.
And that, my friends, is how you'll discover which friends are real and which ones only feel some sort of pity-fueled obligation to deal with you. It may be painful in the short term, esp if you're young, to cut ties with someone you feel is special, but I can tell you from life experience it will be FAR better in the long run.
One final note for any lurkers from IT that may say, "She might just assume you need space or are busy": Yeah, to an extent. But after some time has passed it will become obvious.
