Went to a sex therapist today, like I said yesterday. Result is underwhelming but I expected as much, everyone that said it was a waste of time, yeah you were right, it was, wasnt too expensive for a first talk though and I wanted to at least try that option, see what its about.
What the appointment amounted to was him suggesting that I go visit a prostitute, in order to get experience and at least take off some of the pressure, so that I would have a place to start in order to mature sexually, was nothing new of course, escortceling is talked about here frequently, pondered that possibility myself for some time now.
His answer to why foids dont want me is that I just hadnt tried hard enough and that there were enough foids out there that are just as insecure about sex as me and would LOOOOOOVE a guy (chad) that would treat them nicely and wants more than just pump and dump, said I should try getting them, said he had a lot of them as patients (jfl at that).
Told him I had already tried that with a few foids that were femcely and they all still got the tingles for men mogging me to the 4th dimension and beyond in many aspects, always was just the loser orbiter, even told him how much it hurt me and how sad it had made me since I hadnt really done anything wrong, still got punished though. He simply dismissed my thoughts, even started with the whole "there are 500.000 or so and so women out there...".
On the masturbation thing, asked me whether I had been sexually abused and I said no and that I didnt know what it is with that, didnt delve much deeper though, only talked about how solving that would take a lot of time and "homework" would amount to slowly starting to touch myself sexually. Was the thing that disappointed me the most, had thought hed tell me something more substantial than just "just try it out".
All in all, although it was different and he was a lot more matter of fact like and to the point, made it less aggravating, nothing actually came of it, complete waste of time. No new ideas, no perspective, some bluepill bullshit about foids. Also no talk about lookism, take from that what you will.
Thing annoying me the most about therapy is how they all refuse to legitimately work with me, dont even give a perspective on that. Come up with oneliners for things that are so complicated I cant solve them myself, need professional help, but they have no personal investment and therefore let you do all the work.
Yeah makes sense, if I want my life to change its me who has to effect that change, but Im fucking failing at it and Im running out of options, have tried a whole fucking lot, just repeating do this, do that, meditate, jog, touch your dick for 1 second, touch your dick for 2 seconds simply isnt enough.
I can come up with that crap myself, I need them to tell me something I couldnt possibly know, need to have actual support with my "homework" to gain a perspective, need them to give a shit beyond "you unload for 50 minutes, then I tell you you´re making it up and you should just keep trying like before, now give me at least 50 bucks".
So Ive done it, if you think you need "sex therapy" yourself, dont fucking bother, isnt anything different from regular therapy if youre an incel and just more expensive, some therapists outright refuse to talk about sexual shit as a prime thing though, so I guess you just need to get lucky to get a therapist that actually gives a shit, can pick up an immaculate facial bone structure with the same amount of luck though.
What the appointment amounted to was him suggesting that I go visit a prostitute, in order to get experience and at least take off some of the pressure, so that I would have a place to start in order to mature sexually, was nothing new of course, escortceling is talked about here frequently, pondered that possibility myself for some time now.
His answer to why foids dont want me is that I just hadnt tried hard enough and that there were enough foids out there that are just as insecure about sex as me and would LOOOOOOVE a guy (chad) that would treat them nicely and wants more than just pump and dump, said I should try getting them, said he had a lot of them as patients (jfl at that).
Told him I had already tried that with a few foids that were femcely and they all still got the tingles for men mogging me to the 4th dimension and beyond in many aspects, always was just the loser orbiter, even told him how much it hurt me and how sad it had made me since I hadnt really done anything wrong, still got punished though. He simply dismissed my thoughts, even started with the whole "there are 500.000 or so and so women out there...".
On the masturbation thing, asked me whether I had been sexually abused and I said no and that I didnt know what it is with that, didnt delve much deeper though, only talked about how solving that would take a lot of time and "homework" would amount to slowly starting to touch myself sexually. Was the thing that disappointed me the most, had thought hed tell me something more substantial than just "just try it out".
All in all, although it was different and he was a lot more matter of fact like and to the point, made it less aggravating, nothing actually came of it, complete waste of time. No new ideas, no perspective, some bluepill bullshit about foids. Also no talk about lookism, take from that what you will.
Thing annoying me the most about therapy is how they all refuse to legitimately work with me, dont even give a perspective on that. Come up with oneliners for things that are so complicated I cant solve them myself, need professional help, but they have no personal investment and therefore let you do all the work.
Yeah makes sense, if I want my life to change its me who has to effect that change, but Im fucking failing at it and Im running out of options, have tried a whole fucking lot, just repeating do this, do that, meditate, jog, touch your dick for 1 second, touch your dick for 2 seconds simply isnt enough.
I can come up with that crap myself, I need them to tell me something I couldnt possibly know, need to have actual support with my "homework" to gain a perspective, need them to give a shit beyond "you unload for 50 minutes, then I tell you you´re making it up and you should just keep trying like before, now give me at least 50 bucks".
So Ive done it, if you think you need "sex therapy" yourself, dont fucking bother, isnt anything different from regular therapy if youre an incel and just more expensive, some therapists outright refuse to talk about sexual shit as a prime thing though, so I guess you just need to get lucky to get a therapist that actually gives a shit, can pick up an immaculate facial bone structure with the same amount of luck though.
