What Romantic Activities Do You Prefer in a Relationship?

[lonelysince2006]

Say you have a loyal, loving partner who will stay with you forever, BUT you can only either kiss her, hug her, hold her hand OR have sex with her. You can only do one of these things throughout your life.

If you choose:

Kissing, hugging, hand-holding = no sex at all
Sex = no kissing, hugging, hand-holding at all

This also means you'll either be KHH forever or a virgin forever.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

I want to be loved.

 

[CruxGammata]

I want free pussy

 

[RegularManlet]

Honestly the top one, the loving aspect is what I want more, sex seems like its kind of physical exhausting, I would want to cuddle her while I watch a movie or something.

 

[Ultracel30]

I will immediately marry her and make love with her.

Say you have a loyal, loving partner who will stay with you forever

 

[copecel00]

Swinging my chainsaw at her.

 

[stalin22]

Anal

 

[lonelysince2006]

I want to be loved.

I don't think clothed dry-humping counts as sex, so you can coom without needing to do the much-coveted naked horizontal dance with a member of the opposite sex.

And it's possible to coom with just kissing.

Edit: It might be more of a GrAY area.

If there was a dichotomy between "kissing, hand-holding, hugging" and "sex," what activities would fall within what area? Would dry-humping count as sex, or is it not sex and therefore part of the former?

In the context of a dichotomy between "kissing, hand-holding, hugging" and "sex," the former activities would generally be considered non-sexual or pre-sexual forms of physical intimacy, while "sex" would typically refer to sexual intercourse.

Dry-humping, on the other hand, is a bit of a gray area. It involves sexual stimulation through rubbing against each other while clothed, which can be a form of sexual activity. Some may consider it a type of sex, albeit non-penetrative, while others may categorize it as a form of foreplay or sexual activity that is distinct from sexual intercourse.

Ultimately, how these activities are categorized can depend on cultural norms, personal beliefs, and the context in which they occur.

So it is sexual activity, but not necessarily sexual intercourse (which involves PIV insertion, which means it's always penetrative; therefore, non-penetrative sex is not sexual intercourse in this sense). Likewise, kissing can be a form of sexual activity if done before sex as a foreplay (pre-sexual activity). However, since dry-humping is exclusively meant for sexual gratification and satisfaction rather than being romantic, I would say it's closer to the definition of "sex."

Is kissing, hand-holding, and hugging sexual or romantic?

Kissing, hand-holding, and hugging can be both sexual and romantic, but they don't necessarily have to be.

- **Sexual:** These actions can be part of sexual activity or foreplay, leading to sexual arousal or intercourse.

- **Romantic:** They can also be expressions of affection and intimacy in a romantic relationship without necessarily having a sexual component.

The interpretation of these actions can vary based on cultural, personal, and situational factors.

 

[lonelysince2006]

@LeFrenchCel Interesting.

Which out of these three—kissing, hand-holding, and hugging—are closer to "sexual activity" and which to "romantic activity" on a spectrum?

On a spectrum between "sexual activity" and "romantic activity," kissing would typically be closer to "sexual activity" due to its potential for sexual arousal and involvement of the mouth and lips, which are erogenous zones.

Hand-holding and hugging, while they can be intimate and affectionate, are often seen as more purely "romantic activities" because they are less directly associated with sexual arousal or genital stimulation.

However, it's important to note that these distinctions can vary depending on cultural norms, individual preferences, and the context in which these activities occur.

most sexual, least romantic ← kissing — hugging — hand-holding → most romantic, least sexual

What occurred to me is that people with hand partialism may actually perceive hand-holding as more sexual than romantic, at least relative to the other items on the spectrum, so someone with hand partialism may view sex = hand-holding (e.g. people with this fetish engage in "manually masturbating, fingering someone, handjobs, fisting"—all examples of sexual activity). Therefore, a person with hand partialism will have this as their sort of spectrum:

most sexual, least romantic ← hand-holding (= sex) — kissing (?) — hugging (?) → least romantic, most sexual

Other possible (but slightly abnormal) combinations (MS, LR — MR, LS):

kissing, hugging, HH ← normal
kissing, HH, hugging ← normal (varied)
hugging, kissing, HH ← ?
hugging, HH, kissing ← ?
HH, kissing, hugging ← hand partialism
HH, hugging, kissing ← hand partialism

@GeckoBus Thots on this analysis?

 

[LeFrenchCel]

I don't think clothed dry-humping counts as sex, so you can coom without needing to do the much-coveted naked horizontal dance with a member of the opposite sex.

And it's possible to coom with just kissing.

Edit: It might be more of a GrAY area.




So it is sexual activity, but not necessarily sexual intercourse (which involves PIV insertion, which means it's always penetrative; therefore, non-penetrative sex is not sexual intercourse in this sense). Likewise, kissing can be a form of sexual activity if done before sex as a foreplay (pre-sexual activity). However, since dry-humping is exclusively meant for sexual gratification and satisfaction rather than being romantic, I would say it's closer to the definition of "sex."

@LeFrenchCel Interesting.




most sexual, least romantic ← kissing — hugging — hand-holding → most romantic, least sexual

What occurred to me is that people with hand partialism may actually perceive hand-holding as more sexual than romantic, at least relative to the other items on the spectrum, so someone with hand partialism may view sex = hand-holding (e.g. people with this fetish engage in "manually masturbating, fingering someone, handjobs, fisting"—all examples of sexual activity). Therefore, a person with hand partialism will have this as their sort of spectrum:

most sexual, least romantic ← hand-holding (= sex) — kissing (?) — hugging (?) → least romantic, most sexual

Other possible (but slightly abnormal) combinations (MS, LR — MR, LS):

kissing, hugging, HH ← normal
kissing, HH, hugging ← normal (varied)
hugging, kissing, HH ← ?
hugging, HH, kissing ← ?
HH, kissing, hugging ← hand partialism
HH, hugging, kissing ← hand partialism

@GeckoBus Thots on this analysis?

Truecel trait: you looked on google to see what "dry humping" was.

Imo something is considered as a sexual activity since the moment there's a contact between your dick and one of the holes' holes.

 

[RegularManlet]

Truecel trait: you looked on google to see what "dry humping" was.

Imo something is considered as a sexual activity since the moment there's a contact between your dick and one of the holes' holes.

Idk if it stimulates the genital I think its still sexual, you dont dry hump out of love its for a sexual feeling. JFL then every dog that dry humps you is in love with you.

Dogpill...

 

[Puppeter]

I need pussy

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Idk if it stimulates the genital I think its still sexual, you dont dry hump out of love its for a sexual feeling. JFL then every dog that dry humps you is in love with you.

Dogpill...

If it stimulates your genitals but there's no penetration with a hole it still goes under "erotic" stuff instead of "sexual" stuff imo

I guess we all have different visions on this

Not that it really matters since we don't get those things anyway

 

[RegularManlet]

Not that it really matters since we don't get those things anyway

Lol yeah, regardless I will still waste my time responding to this since I have nothing better to do

If it stimulates your genitals but there's no penetration with a hole it still goes under "erotic" stuff instead of "sexual" stuff imo

I dont know about the "official" definitions or whatever but from my understanding of the question you either get to do loving stuff like hugging and kissing, or enjoy using your penis with her (which falls under dry humping for me)

 

[lonelysince2006]

Imo something is considered as a sexual activity since the moment there's a contact between your dick and one of the holes' holes.

That would mean that you don't consider footjobs, handjobs, blowjobs, thighjobs, buttjobs/assjobs (intergluteal sex), titjobs, fingering, oral sex (cunnilingus, anilingus), and breast stimulation (manual, oral) to be sexual activity.

Idk if it stimulates the genital I think its still sexual, you dont dry hump out of love its for a sexual feeling.

True.

If it stimulates your genitals but there's no penetration with a hole it still goes under "erotic" stuff instead of "sexual" stuff imo

I guess you're right.

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What's the difference between erotic acts and sexual acts?

"Erotic acts" and "sexual acts" can sometimes be used interchangeably, but they can also carry slightly different connotations:

- **Erotic acts:** These are activities or behaviors that are intended to elicit sexual arousal or desire. They can include a wide range of activities, such as sensual touching, erotic massage, suggestive dancing, or engaging in sexual fantasies.

- **Sexual acts:** These refer specifically to behaviors that involve sexual contact or interaction with the intention of achieving sexual gratification. This can include activities like sexual intercourse, oral sex, mutual masturbation, or any other form of physical intimacy involving the genitals or erogenous zones.

In essence, while erotic acts are generally focused on arousing sexual desire, sexual acts involve direct sexual contact or interaction. However, the boundary between them can be subjective and context-dependent.

Erotic acts: sexual arousal (e.g. sensual touching, erotic massage, suggestive dancing, sexual fantasies)
Sexual acts: sexual gratification (sexual activity)

All three items (kissing, hugging, HH) mentioned in the first option could potentially be erotic if you are aroused by it.

I dont know about the "official" definitions or whatever but from my understanding of the question you either get to do loving stuff like hugging and kissing, or enjoy using your penis with her (which falls under dry humping for me)

Yeah, I'd say the poll is more to highlight the contrast between "romantic" and "sexual" acts and discussing what constitutes what kind of waters down the actual point and purpose of the poll, which is to find whether people here have a larger preference for loving acts, as you said, or sexual acts.

 

[cripplecel]

Doing rapes is most important for me

 

[lonelysince2006]

Doing rapes is most important for me

I think nonconsensual handholding could constitute rape.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

That would mean that you don't consider footjobs, handjobs, blowjobs, thighjobs, buttjobs/assjobs (intergluteal sex), titjobs, fingering, oral sex (cunnilingus, anilingus), and breast stimulation (manual, oral) to be sexual activity.

I meant everything where one of the partners genitals unclothed gets in contact with the other person's body, sorry for not being explicit enough

Anything that has "job" on it basically is sexual too, as well as interacting with the pussy/anus

Breast stimulation... grey line for me

 

[asuraxia]

i want a girl to gobble my balls and make me a sandwhich

 

[Ron.Belgrade]

i want a girl to gobble my balls and make me a sandwhich

 

[RegularManlet]

Yeah, I'd say the poll is more to highlight the contrast between "romantic" and "sexual" acts and discussing what constitutes what kind of waters down the actual point and purpose of the poll, which is to find whether people here have a larger preference for loving acts, as you said, or sexual acts.

Yeah

If I wanted sex I would have just gone and fucked an escort by now, heck I would have fucked 3 of them at the same time and had turns sampling their used up holes.

But there is no escorting service for what I truly desire.

Although meanwhile people are getting BOTH loving and sexual acts with their partners.

Meanwhile all I can do is consider a hypothetical having to pick and choose between one.