In group therapy, psychologists would frequently criticize my inability to make eye contact or chat with other youth. I was told to be more social with my grandparents, even though my grandmother criticized me constantly over the slightest mistake(I stayed in the room I shared with my mother most of the time).
Years ago, I often told my psychologist how much I disliked being patronized by my grandmother. She would tell me, "Talk! Use your mouth and talk! Look! Look at the object in front of you! Put your head up, no one did anything to you!"(I have visual processing problems and severe anxiety. She didn't care at all.) - I recall being sad when I had to return and see her after leaving my IEP evaluation appointment.
My psychologist told me I was just "hypersensitive" to her tone.