Lv99_BixNood
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View: https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/17lbr0h/i_feel_like_telling_women_to_vet_men_is_setting/
You really truly cannot vet anyone. You can be friends with or date someone for DECADES before they reveal that massive red flag they were hiding.
Sure there are signs you can look out for, but nothing is really full proof. All you can do is know what your boundaries are and LEAVE the moment someone shills out some blatant disrespect or disregard.
Women give far too many chances to shitty people and it has lead them either more pain, or at the very worst DEATH.
Edit: to clarify what I'm saying, I'm not saying women shouldn't vet at all..I'm saying that people shouldn't expect women to basically have psychic powers to decipher whether a man is insane or not, and blaming the woman for "not vetting good enough" and she "should've chosen better guys" when things go wrong.
You can only analyze someone for so many red flags. Some people are SO GOOD at manipulation, they sometimes getting away with crimes for years without ever getting caught. So blaming women for not being able to read minds or have psychic visions that some guy is going to harm her is wrong and is what I'm getting at here.
But they can instantly detect that you post on .is