When you look at relationships from normies in the public setting or probably on social media nowadays, it may or may not be a facade. The uncertainty should be enough to calm our nerves and lessen our hearts with envy. Just continue living your life.
Beyond the perfectly filtered photos and carefully scripted captions lies a truth about relationships we envy may be as fragile as glass or at the very best imperfect with a mostly perfect setting. What incels perceive as near 'perfection' might merely be an illusion, an illusion of work as an attempt to gawk at something we don't have. We're drawn into this illusion because in a world that often despises us, makes us feel alienated, we crave the Hollywood 'love' as a remedy to our problems. The romanticised images offer a momentary escape for some but it isn't a good way to go about it.
We constantly yearn for more, believing that the next achievement, possession, or in this case the idealised relationship will finally bring us happiness. It's as if contentment forever escapes us after we get something, hidden behind a curtain of 'more.' EVEN IF we were to attain that picture-perfect relationship that is idealised, it might not be the thing we imagine. Human nature's flaw is that its desires insatiable, unless we curb our primal instincts and manually accept otherwise. What seems 'perfect' today can become boring tomorrow, hence there is no perfect relationship. We become too used to what we get, taking whatever we had in the past for granted making the perfect imperfect.
The paradox is that the pursuit of 'more' often leads to a never ending cycle of dissatisfaction. We're trapped in a race we can never win because the finish line keeps shifting by our own primal instincts. Most people here think that they'll finally be content if they became a Chad overnight which is a massive cope, as by human nature unless we control it and manually accept that everlasting happiness doesn't exist, then you will always be miserable. True peace is realising that no matter how much you attain you can never be truly happy, as strange as that sounds. And that can only be done in the present moment. It's not about ignoring our desires, or ambitions or not improving on yourself, don't do that. But realise the only way we are going to be less miserable is to accept what we have in front of us and the cards we were dealt with; accept it's over but at the same time stop trying to fill an eternal void.
Beyond the perfectly filtered photos and carefully scripted captions lies a truth about relationships we envy may be as fragile as glass or at the very best imperfect with a mostly perfect setting. What incels perceive as near 'perfection' might merely be an illusion, an illusion of work as an attempt to gawk at something we don't have. We're drawn into this illusion because in a world that often despises us, makes us feel alienated, we crave the Hollywood 'love' as a remedy to our problems. The romanticised images offer a momentary escape for some but it isn't a good way to go about it.
We constantly yearn for more, believing that the next achievement, possession, or in this case the idealised relationship will finally bring us happiness. It's as if contentment forever escapes us after we get something, hidden behind a curtain of 'more.' EVEN IF we were to attain that picture-perfect relationship that is idealised, it might not be the thing we imagine. Human nature's flaw is that its desires insatiable, unless we curb our primal instincts and manually accept otherwise. What seems 'perfect' today can become boring tomorrow, hence there is no perfect relationship. We become too used to what we get, taking whatever we had in the past for granted making the perfect imperfect.
The paradox is that the pursuit of 'more' often leads to a never ending cycle of dissatisfaction. We're trapped in a race we can never win because the finish line keeps shifting by our own primal instincts. Most people here think that they'll finally be content if they became a Chad overnight which is a massive cope, as by human nature unless we control it and manually accept that everlasting happiness doesn't exist, then you will always be miserable. True peace is realising that no matter how much you attain you can never be truly happy, as strange as that sounds. And that can only be done in the present moment. It's not about ignoring our desires, or ambitions or not improving on yourself, don't do that. But realise the only way we are going to be less miserable is to accept what we have in front of us and the cards we were dealt with; accept it's over but at the same time stop trying to fill an eternal void.
