TheNEET
mentally crippled by sleepoverless teen years
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Why does this keep happening to me? I try not to take it personally but it's not nice. Why can't I post anything without getting a mean reply?
There was a post on some furry group about Christmas and people were making random Christmas-related remarks in the comments. I wrote "oh, I hope I'll get nice presents! " and literally a minute later some random stranger replied to me "you're not getting any present, you fucking loser". Not a single person got a mean remark like this and my comment isn't extraordinary, I don't understand why I was targeted.
I understand that people are mean on social media and internet in general (although incel forums, 4chan etc. are much MUCH nicer to me than Facebook), but it seems to only happen to me and it happens almost every single time. I'm getting kinda paranoid: I check my comments 10 times, compare it with others and I genuinely can't find anything that stands out about them; my profile is all hidden (and I get these comments from strangers), there's only info about my uni, my birth date and a photo of me (and the photo is so extremely angle- and lightningmaxxed that I look completely average).
I'd just shrug it off, but it happens so often and it's always so out of place, some of the mean comments edge on being gibberish and some are so out of place that they almost seem like satire. About a month ago someone asked in a culinary group for our favorite sandwich spread recipes, I posted a recipe for a vegan fish-like sandwich spread and almost immediately I got a comment saying "only a retard would enjoy this recipe". In over 100 comments no one received a mean comment like this. I analyzed potential problems with my comment: I considered the keyword "vegan" triggering someone but there were many vegan recipes there (in fact, I got this recipe from that exact group and many people liked it), I considered that it received such a mean reply because it was posted on that group earlier, but I've checked other recipes and the 10 randomly chosen ones that I checked were all also posted there before. Besides, my comment had a completely average number of (positive) reactions after a day, so clearly there was only one guy that had a problem with it.
I've had so many situations like these and I don't even remember all of them. As I've said, some are so out of place that they seem like satire. I'm in one group for sharing wholesome memes and once I shared some generic meme in that vein "haha, drink water and love yourself, here's a cute puppy" and someone replied "kill yourself". Other replies seemed completely normal and the mods of the group didn't remove that comment which is weird.
I always just ignore these replies, but it's very weird that every time I post in some open group, there's about 25% chance of me getting a mean comment. Here are some possibilities why that happens:
There was a post on some furry group about Christmas and people were making random Christmas-related remarks in the comments. I wrote "oh, I hope I'll get nice presents! " and literally a minute later some random stranger replied to me "you're not getting any present, you fucking loser". Not a single person got a mean remark like this and my comment isn't extraordinary, I don't understand why I was targeted.
I understand that people are mean on social media and internet in general (although incel forums, 4chan etc. are much MUCH nicer to me than Facebook), but it seems to only happen to me and it happens almost every single time. I'm getting kinda paranoid: I check my comments 10 times, compare it with others and I genuinely can't find anything that stands out about them; my profile is all hidden (and I get these comments from strangers), there's only info about my uni, my birth date and a photo of me (and the photo is so extremely angle- and lightningmaxxed that I look completely average).
I'd just shrug it off, but it happens so often and it's always so out of place, some of the mean comments edge on being gibberish and some are so out of place that they almost seem like satire. About a month ago someone asked in a culinary group for our favorite sandwich spread recipes, I posted a recipe for a vegan fish-like sandwich spread and almost immediately I got a comment saying "only a retard would enjoy this recipe". In over 100 comments no one received a mean comment like this. I analyzed potential problems with my comment: I considered the keyword "vegan" triggering someone but there were many vegan recipes there (in fact, I got this recipe from that exact group and many people liked it), I considered that it received such a mean reply because it was posted on that group earlier, but I've checked other recipes and the 10 randomly chosen ones that I checked were all also posted there before. Besides, my comment had a completely average number of (positive) reactions after a day, so clearly there was only one guy that had a problem with it.
I've had so many situations like these and I don't even remember all of them. As I've said, some are so out of place that they seem like satire. I'm in one group for sharing wholesome memes and once I shared some generic meme in that vein "haha, drink water and love yourself, here's a cute puppy" and someone replied "kill yourself". Other replies seemed completely normal and the mods of the group didn't remove that comment which is weird.
I always just ignore these replies, but it's very weird that every time I post in some open group, there's about 25% chance of me getting a mean comment. Here are some possibilities why that happens:
- pure luck; every time this happens, it seems to me that I'm the only one targeted, but I've seen strangers being mean to random people for seemingly no reason; perhaps this happens to everyone
- maybe I'm actually so autistic that the things I write and share give off an obvious autistic vibe (and I can't even notice it) and people feel ok with bullying me for that reason
- I try to appear as neutral and normie as possible on my Facebook, but sometimes I'll share a mild political meme; I have one guy added as my "friend" who used to be completely normal but he's far-left now: he shared memes about eating the rich and identified with Antifa; perhaps my lukewarm memes about "haha both sides of the political spectrum can be silly sometimes" got me classified as a Nazi in his eyes and he added me as a targeted individual to some database and leftists feel obligated to be mean to me whenever they see me
- "dead internet theory": perhaps Facebook is mostly bots and some algorithm noticed that bullying me keeps me longer on the site (I doubt it's true, but who knows? I kinda have masochistic tendencies and, like many people, I'll seek out content just to get angry), so Facebook uses bots to write mean replies to me, so I'll stay longer on that site (this theory makes a lot of sense since, as I've said, some of the replies are generic and could be applied anywhere, some of the replies only vaguely mention the subject of my comment and some edge on being gibberish)
- the photo I use is looksmaxed as much as I could, but there's no way around me looking ugly and low-T: in fact one of my Facebook "friends" commented under that photo that I look like a femboy -- I tried to look normie and specifically choose a darker colored shirt (I usually wear pastel colors or white) to appear "manlier", but I guess there's no way of going around the fact that I look like a 14-year-old boy with long hair, having a My Little Pony drawing as my cover image probably doesn't help my case of looking low-T and it's a natural instinct for normies to bully people like me
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