Normies just say it to invalidate our problems, I understand the basement dwelling neckbeard stereotype exist for a reason but I think most people would be surprised to find out that most incels don't fit that stereotype.
I take care of myself, shower daily, skin care, almost all the hygienic techniques you can think of, not a fatass,, employed, I mean there's not much else I can do in my situation as a below average autistic man, plus most autists Don't even do half the shit I do
If you're a man who has his shit together they will Gaslight you and find any reason as to say why you are struggling in life, and if you do tell them that you have your shit together then they'll just tell you that it's your "personality" you can never win with Normans.