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UsedToBeIncel
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- Nov 10, 2017
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I was really sad to hear r/Incels was closed, I used to lurk there from time to time and found the self deprecating humor hilarious. And i felt the importance of having this community for people to lose some of the pain.
I wanted to share with you my story as someone who used to be an incel, I hope it won't rub anyone the wrong way (Because I'm not incel anymore). I thought it might interest some of you how things look from the other side.
I lost my virginity at 22 to hooker, and had my first GF and Sex at 24. I wasn't really terribly ugly (I'm like 7/10, maybe 8/10 when I was at my top physical shape and optimal grooming) - I was just very shy blue pill and didn't have good skills with women (I did have some dates, kisses and opportunities but i kinda failed em all)
And until 24 I suffered like crazy, I'm 32 right now so it was around 12 years ago. There was no real community and I felt terribly alone. The only game around was the pickup scene back then and I did do a pick up course, but I hated and still hate it now. I had no one to talk about it with and felt terrible shame, The only consolation I had was reading michel houellebecq that was the only author who really understood how bad it is to be without sex, his breakthrough book is actually about inceldom (Extension of the domain of the struggle) - Would really recommend reading if you haven't already.
Since then I had sex with 13 women (non paid) , and like 10 escorts. Non of them was fat, most around the 6-8/10 area with the hottest one would be around 8.5. One of them even cheated with me on her boyfriend while traveling. By the way: the most success with girls I had was while abusing cocaine, I'm not even joking. Cocaine is better than any pick up course.
Now I'm pretty successful financially and my game and confidence improved when with time (But I'm still far from being a chad) I can get reasonably looking girls to date me. And even managed to score on tinder few times. If you would meet me you would think I'm a normie. But you want to hear the truth? The pain never goes away, I still feel inferiority and lack of confidence while I'm aging and still struggling on dates - I still distrust women and society and just mad at seeing the hypocrisy and cruelty low status males are suffering from. It is MUCH better than it used to be, but being an incel for long enough time scars you for life.
The thing is - You have to feel it to understand it. And most normies didn't have this long incel periods, And women are just sociopathic towards low status males because they were programmed this way. I guess the bottom line of the story would be that even if you get laid it will make you feel better for a while, but the sad truth is that the world is a cruel and unjust place. Even after you get some success and validation, you will always feel you need more - Because you have all these lost years behind you... and it feels like it's never enough. If you'll manage in some way to get a girl you are attracted to to have sex with you it will not solve all your problems. My only advice will be to try to maximize money, and go to poor countries where your money will be still worth something (Ukraine, Thailand, Colombia). The women in the west are just a terrible bargain unless your'e chad.
Stay strong and I wish you well.
I wanted to share with you my story as someone who used to be an incel, I hope it won't rub anyone the wrong way (Because I'm not incel anymore). I thought it might interest some of you how things look from the other side.
I lost my virginity at 22 to hooker, and had my first GF and Sex at 24. I wasn't really terribly ugly (I'm like 7/10, maybe 8/10 when I was at my top physical shape and optimal grooming) - I was just very shy blue pill and didn't have good skills with women (I did have some dates, kisses and opportunities but i kinda failed em all)
And until 24 I suffered like crazy, I'm 32 right now so it was around 12 years ago. There was no real community and I felt terribly alone. The only game around was the pickup scene back then and I did do a pick up course, but I hated and still hate it now. I had no one to talk about it with and felt terrible shame, The only consolation I had was reading michel houellebecq that was the only author who really understood how bad it is to be without sex, his breakthrough book is actually about inceldom (Extension of the domain of the struggle) - Would really recommend reading if you haven't already.
Since then I had sex with 13 women (non paid) , and like 10 escorts. Non of them was fat, most around the 6-8/10 area with the hottest one would be around 8.5. One of them even cheated with me on her boyfriend while traveling. By the way: the most success with girls I had was while abusing cocaine, I'm not even joking. Cocaine is better than any pick up course.
Now I'm pretty successful financially and my game and confidence improved when with time (But I'm still far from being a chad) I can get reasonably looking girls to date me. And even managed to score on tinder few times. If you would meet me you would think I'm a normie. But you want to hear the truth? The pain never goes away, I still feel inferiority and lack of confidence while I'm aging and still struggling on dates - I still distrust women and society and just mad at seeing the hypocrisy and cruelty low status males are suffering from. It is MUCH better than it used to be, but being an incel for long enough time scars you for life.
The thing is - You have to feel it to understand it. And most normies didn't have this long incel periods, And women are just sociopathic towards low status males because they were programmed this way. I guess the bottom line of the story would be that even if you get laid it will make you feel better for a while, but the sad truth is that the world is a cruel and unjust place. Even after you get some success and validation, you will always feel you need more - Because you have all these lost years behind you... and it feels like it's never enough. If you'll manage in some way to get a girl you are attracted to to have sex with you it will not solve all your problems. My only advice will be to try to maximize money, and go to poor countries where your money will be still worth something (Ukraine, Thailand, Colombia). The women in the west are just a terrible bargain unless your'e chad.
Stay strong and I wish you well.