View: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1bol7a8/aita_wanting_a_divorce_with_my_wife_after_she/
This scenario literally happened to my own father and my uncle (who killed himself). I remember a time when my own dad had a bout with unemployment, and my mom just hated him more, even me and my sister lost all respect for him. There's a reason why finances are the leading cause of divorce. While we never went broke, the situation meant my mom became the breadwinner, and my dad had to take on a more parental role- and my dad had no shame about this gender role switcheroo (the way he saw it, he earned his keep since he did earn more, when he did work). Looking back, my mom probably resented this a lot. If he just stayed employed they probably could have afforded to move to a much nicer home, than live in their semi hoarder situation now.
I think my reverse gender role household really fucked with my development, because I had no concept of masculinity, or have even made the connection that you need to be masculine to have respect, till I was in my late twenties. And by then, it was too late to make a difference. I learned how to be a weak loser from my father. Come to think about it, lack of understanding about masculinity and it's affect on your standing on the world probably explains a lot about redditor behavior and morality right there.
Also the fact that he was unemployed, and kind of felt a sudden lack of overall respect for the world probably led him to be less incentivized to even work at all from the trauma of it. This is exactly what went on in this post
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