Feeling good that I’m not alone. Hell soon join me in the wizard club if no miracle happens
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Google translation:
Absolute beginner at 27. I'm desperate and need advice!
Hello, everyone. I hope you are all doing well! I am new to this sub and I also hope that my concern is in the right place and that you can give me advice.
I'm 27 years old and I've never had a girlfriend or even sex. In the last few years I have only met a slightly younger woman 3 times over the internet and arranged to meet, but unfortunately nothing ever came of it. In the end it was always said that I didn't sparkle or that I was very nice but unfortunately not the right person. The most intimate experience I've ever had with a woman was holding her hand for a moment, which frustrates me a lot because nowadays you hear about sex and love everywhere and you weren't allowed to experience any of it yourself. It's making me very depressed because I'm going to be 30 soon and I feel like I've missed my entire youth.
I was never a looker when I was in school. I was always very shy and reserved, so I never dared to approach girls and I just wasn't attractive enough in terms of appearance. Unfortunately, I was chubby and had no idea about fashion, so I always wore some kind of oversized clothes. It wasn't until after I graduated from high school that I started working on my own. I started doing a lot of sports and getting in physical shape, which also gave me a lot of confidence that I never had before. I also found out more about men's fashion and dressed better. I've also received compliments that I'm good looking and have a nice body and face. But unfortunately I'm still much too withdrawn and boring. I try to be as talkative as possible. When I'm talking, I keep eye contact, smile, respond to what she's saying, etc. But at the same time, I always come across as nervous and insecure. It only seems to work well when writing, since I've already been able to have long chats with some women. But as soon as I meet, I always disappoint.
. I'm not just about having sex. otherwise I would probably give up completely and go to a prostitute. I want to meet a woman who wants me too and not just because I'm paying her for it. That's why I avoided every temptation to go to the brothel. At the same time, I'm concerned because I've heard that many women find it very strange when a man in his late 20s is still a virgin. I would therefore love to meet a woman who is still a virgin herself or who has only had a few sexual contacts, but that would probably be utopian in my current situation. I'm considering whether I shouldn't give up the search altogether and concentrate on my career instead, so that I'm financially secure first and then when I'm in my early 30s I'll be looking for a partner again. Until then, I'll continue to train my body and learn how to be more self-confident, personable, flirty etc. But as the years go by I'm becoming less attractive and now my hair is getting thinner too, which worries me even more. I hope you can give me some advice! And of course I'll answer any questions. Thank you for reading!
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Google translation:
Absolute beginner at 27. I'm desperate and need advice!
Hello, everyone. I hope you are all doing well! I am new to this sub and I also hope that my concern is in the right place and that you can give me advice.
I'm 27 years old and I've never had a girlfriend or even sex. In the last few years I have only met a slightly younger woman 3 times over the internet and arranged to meet, but unfortunately nothing ever came of it. In the end it was always said that I didn't sparkle or that I was very nice but unfortunately not the right person. The most intimate experience I've ever had with a woman was holding her hand for a moment, which frustrates me a lot because nowadays you hear about sex and love everywhere and you weren't allowed to experience any of it yourself. It's making me very depressed because I'm going to be 30 soon and I feel like I've missed my entire youth.
I was never a looker when I was in school. I was always very shy and reserved, so I never dared to approach girls and I just wasn't attractive enough in terms of appearance. Unfortunately, I was chubby and had no idea about fashion, so I always wore some kind of oversized clothes. It wasn't until after I graduated from high school that I started working on my own. I started doing a lot of sports and getting in physical shape, which also gave me a lot of confidence that I never had before. I also found out more about men's fashion and dressed better. I've also received compliments that I'm good looking and have a nice body and face. But unfortunately I'm still much too withdrawn and boring. I try to be as talkative as possible. When I'm talking, I keep eye contact, smile, respond to what she's saying, etc. But at the same time, I always come across as nervous and insecure. It only seems to work well when writing, since I've already been able to have long chats with some women. But as soon as I meet, I always disappoint.
. I'm not just about having sex. otherwise I would probably give up completely and go to a prostitute. I want to meet a woman who wants me too and not just because I'm paying her for it. That's why I avoided every temptation to go to the brothel. At the same time, I'm concerned because I've heard that many women find it very strange when a man in his late 20s is still a virgin. I would therefore love to meet a woman who is still a virgin herself or who has only had a few sexual contacts, but that would probably be utopian in my current situation. I'm considering whether I shouldn't give up the search altogether and concentrate on my career instead, so that I'm financially secure first and then when I'm in my early 30s I'll be looking for a partner again. Until then, I'll continue to train my body and learn how to be more self-confident, personable, flirty etc. But as the years go by I'm becoming less attractive and now my hair is getting thinner too, which worries me even more. I hope you can give me some advice! And of course I'll answer any questions. Thank you for reading!
