No they are not right. Nobody gets to decide such things. Your worth is meaningless what even is worth to you it means nothing it's all irrelevant. Stop judging yourself by some arbitrary values set by society. If you want to cope at home fapping every day and watching hentai and playing vidya while on neetbuxx go right ahead and let nobody stop you. People will call you whatever they want but in the end this is the nature of social beings, those that do not conform to social norms are shunned. It is what it is, it should not bother you. They will call you a failure for failing to meet whatever imaginary standard they have set out but if you made your choice you are already a winner. Only if you let others make your choices for you is when you are truly a loser.
Want to gymmaxx? Go gymmaxx. Wanna lookmaxx and approach? Go lookmaxx. Want to go ER? Go ER in minecraft there is nobody to judge you for anything, just consequences for your actions.
Life is just a glorified string of choices. Everything else is just noise. Make your choices and live that's all there is to it.