My Husband Thought I Was a Virgin When We Got Married. I'm Not So Sure.
Growing up, Lyz Lenz wanted to be perfect, holy, and right—life had other plans.
"When my husband was my fiancé, I had shown him articles that explained what the hymen really was and that described how it could be disrupted by any number of activities, that it was more of a myth about virginity than an actuality. But I only half-believed these articles myself. I was nervous. I didn’t want him to hate me, to devalue me for what I might have lost—what might have been taken from me. It didn’t occur to me until much later that by tying my value to my virginity, I had already allowed him to devalue me.
I was married for twelve years, but I never once told my husband about that night in college. I barely told myself."
Another sad realization
