Kajel
Banned
-
- Joined
- Jan 13, 2020
- Posts
- 61
I just got back from a week-long vacation with three of my old high school friends. One of them is this super handsome guy I've been friends with since 10th grade. He's always been able to get a girlfriend and has had many casual sex encounters with various girls he's met online or through school, camp, etc. He has a girlfriend of about a year & a half now (she's really cool and they both get along really well) that he's planning to move in with next fall and eventually marring. This guy is as far removed from incel stuff as just about anyone I know, I doubt he's even heard of the term. Anyways, the weird thing is after we were talking about what his relationship was like now that they've gotten so close, he asked me if I was seeing anyone or had just been dating around in general. Nothing about the way he asked it seemed like he was just trying to be nice either although that is possible. I think he genuinely believed, even after knowing me (someone who's never been able to get even one date with a girl) for more than half a decade, that it was a totally real possibility that I could be having any kind of love/sex life.
I have friends online who know that I've been on incel discord servers and have even had group chats with them with my incel friends present and they don't seem to make the connection unless I outright say it.
My parents seem to be in denial (I think the idea just makes them too sad for them to accept it) and none of my family beyond that cares.
My question is how aware do you think people around you are of your situation? Granted some of it must come from the fact that everyone's life is busy and filled with other people so it's difficult to know or mull over the ongoings of you or other people, but that can only explain so much ignorance on the part of peoples lives you're close to. I think the blue-pilled mindset (for lack of a better word) makes some people gloss over mentally the reality of people in their life who can't get into relationships / have sex. It doesn't matter if they know you've been trying to get into a relationship for decades with nothing to show for it or that none of them would want to date you or that you're still a virgin at an old age despite being very open about your interest in sex. Their world view doesn't accept people who want but are unable to lose their virginities or find romantic partners, so they just assume despite everything in front of them that you aren't that case. IDK, it's a very broad topic and I've tried to generalize the mindset of a large group of people. I just don't understand why it's so difficult for some people to see me and what I'm dealing with when I make no attempts to hide it. It feels kind of alienating and I wish the world wasn't like this. I'm sure some of you have insight or had very different experiences I'd like to hear about.
I have friends online who know that I've been on incel discord servers and have even had group chats with them with my incel friends present and they don't seem to make the connection unless I outright say it.
My parents seem to be in denial (I think the idea just makes them too sad for them to accept it) and none of my family beyond that cares.
My question is how aware do you think people around you are of your situation? Granted some of it must come from the fact that everyone's life is busy and filled with other people so it's difficult to know or mull over the ongoings of you or other people, but that can only explain so much ignorance on the part of peoples lives you're close to. I think the blue-pilled mindset (for lack of a better word) makes some people gloss over mentally the reality of people in their life who can't get into relationships / have sex. It doesn't matter if they know you've been trying to get into a relationship for decades with nothing to show for it or that none of them would want to date you or that you're still a virgin at an old age despite being very open about your interest in sex. Their world view doesn't accept people who want but are unable to lose their virginities or find romantic partners, so they just assume despite everything in front of them that you aren't that case. IDK, it's a very broad topic and I've tried to generalize the mindset of a large group of people. I just don't understand why it's so difficult for some people to see me and what I'm dealing with when I make no attempts to hide it. It feels kind of alienating and I wish the world wasn't like this. I'm sure some of you have insight or had very different experiences I'd like to hear about.